jellybean said 2 years, 11 months ago:

Hello, I’m in my first in real life relationship and have recently hit a wall.

I have been abused sexually growing up and I thought I was past it, but now that I’m in a physical relationship I can see I’m definitely not.

My girlfriend has been so patient and caring about it and says we don’t need to have sex but I feel so guilty.

I do find her sexually attractive and I want to please her but don’t want reciprocation, is this weird?

Any other people have this issue when it comes to relationships?

Deleted User said 2 years, 11 months ago:

It’s not weird. It’s understandable, given what you’ve been through. You don’t have to feel guilty for the way you feel, because your feelings are valid. It’s good that your lover is understanding of your situation. Being abused is a traumatic experience, but in time, your wounds will heal.