Deleted User said 10 years, 10 months ago:

look the guys are making the move plain and simple, and MOST guys boast their conquests, slut is a term given by people, and people will term you that or easy at best, i know i would to my guy friends, word gets around fast. If you really want multiple partners, make sure word doesnt get out, i dont see how it will not honestly.

MLG said 10 years, 10 months ago:

I don’t really believe in sluttiness. I think you’re just sexually active and open and that’s not necessarily a bad thing at all.

JustRachel said 10 years, 9 months ago:

If you ever have even the slightest feeling that something is wrong with you or your habits, something is wrong. Sexual desires are very difficult to ignore and temptation gets the better of us. Even if something feels really good when its happening, that doesn’t mean that it will still feel as great later. If you have regretted any of the things that you have been doing in the bedroom, then reflect upon yourself and try to understand why you have to sleep around so much. Is there anything that you can/want to change? If so, then change yourself, from the inside and out.

Getting in between the bound of two human beings who are so connected is something that you should avoid. Even if a relationship is having their problems, don’t get between it. Try to avoid all those guys coming up to you and tell them you’ve changed. Instead of saying that you don’t want to have sex with them, say that you can’t have sex with them, for you understand that you won’t do that anymore.

Also, try to forgive yourself. In order for others to forgive you, you must first forgive yourself.

kinkaide said 10 years, 9 months ago:

sending mixed messages to the menfolk is a problem … the old-fashioned game of no means yes can be quite a turn on … with the added bonus of placing the burden of responsibility onto the man … he seduced me … my mind said no but my body said yes … it may be a convenient way to reconcile the conscience the next day but what does it all mean to you? can you remember exactly what happened? how good was it? the sex i mean … if sex is good between two people generally they want to do it again (and again and again) and hey presto they are in some sort of relationship … IMHO if sex is average or awful then its not worth having … you are better off fixing yourself up at home alone than finding yourself wondering WTF happened last night … let alone worrying what your friends and their friends might be thinking and saying …

Kind Wood said 10 years, 9 months ago:

Girl, lemme tell you something. There’s nothing wrong with casual sex as long as both parties are safe about it and it’s consensual. Sleeping with a bunch of men doesn’t make you a slut. However, sleeping with other men make you the “other woman.”

I kind of went through something like this. I’ll tell you what I felt, and maybe we’re feeling the same thing. I have low confidence. I thought the only way to get a guy to look twice at me is to put out. I’ve walked away with regrets and mistakes, but in the beginning, i thought no and ended us saying yes. The thing about taken men is that maybe on some level, you’re thinking relationship. Not necessarily with the guy, but in the long run. You’re hoping deep down one of those guys will want more than sex.

Hey, it happens. It worked for both my sisters, but it never worked for me. What you need to do is when you get in that situation, take a step back. Would you want your future boyfriend cheating on you? Is this really the best decision? One of next times, you guy friend’s girlfriend may find out. Then everyone finds out. Then, you will lose all of your guy friends.

kindly here said 10 years, 8 months ago:

The word slut is just pathetic and used by people that have no clue of how things run. So what if you’ve slept with a few guys? Does it make you a slut to be comfortable in your own body, because let me put this out there, I am jealous of you if you are able to attract guys like you say you can. I have changed my whole viewpoint on words that are used as sexual insults. People that use them are ignorant, ‘slut, whore, slag, hoe’ notice how they’re all feminine as well… hmm… Just don’t be so quick to judge someone who’s comfortable with their sexuality. Why is it a crime to sleep with a few men but not to hate your body?
You should do whatever you want, and if these guys are cheating on their girlfriends, then their relationships clearly aren’t all fine and dandy now are they.
Do whatever you’d regret the least

Vickie said 10 years, 8 months ago:

Okay, first off, I don’t want you to EVER think you’re a slut. You have never been and never will be a slut. We aren’t even going to think about that.

Now, you in the bed with groups of friends. If you can’t drink and keep yourself composed, it’s probably not for you to drink while at random parties. At least don’t drink the hard stuff, drink a beer or ale instead. Pull out the tequila when you are at a friend’s house with people you trust. I have been there…one minute you take a shot and then the next minute you plow into the vodka wall and you’re wrecked. The stories I have….that’s for another time. Anyway:

People like to pray on others who are drunk; trust me I am the protective pitbull for my friends who like to drink a bit too much while they are out and I see them being led somewhere by someone we don’t know. You don’t want that for yourself. You have to deal with the backlash coming from yourself and the guys calling you. Dealing with that sober really isn’t fun so I would just dial down the drinks and not go home with anyone.