The answer to this question should be self evident to you. Why would you want to be with ANYONE that plays you? About half of marriages in America end up in divorce, and I guarantee you, some of the people involved were definitely getting "played". Whoever this is that you're talking about, he isn't serious about a real relationship, he isn't serious about you, and you've let it go on way longer that it should when you say it happens repeatedly. Don't be a girl in a relationship that is constantly victimized by some asshole that leads you on to believe he cares about you, but he really doesn't.