How do you keep a long distance relationship

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Ok…so me and my friend started talking again in September…near both our birthdays…and I had feelings for her…and I told her how I felt..then she told me that she liked me too. She just didn’t know what I was going to say because I had liked other girls at the moment…but we’ve been best friends for 2 years and a half..but she’s in Ohio and I’m in Virginia…I told her I love u…she didn’t know what to say at first, but she said and we’ve been dating since October 5..we’re in love with each other…but she’s 14and I’m 16..we talk everyday we and stay up late talking…we tell each other that I love u…we’re just really sweet..because she’s had past boyfriends that were assholes…and I’m the first guy to treat her right..I’m a gentleman I’m sweet and I love her with all my heart. She stole my heart.

Category: asked December 2, 2013

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Thank you all for your answers. They're very helpful to me... If any one has any more, do tell. I'd love to hear them... But I love her with all my heart... She's the one.
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I've gone through a long distance relationship and yeah.. It's pretty hard.. It has pros and cons but I'd say go through it. Like what Charlie said, there's no secret formula on this stuff. It really depends on both of you. And just like Paula said, trust is the key. The one thing that I learned from it is that.. It makes you feel lonely in the long run because there is a physical absence. That's the struggle there.. It'll test your sense of contentment and how much you truly value her..Communication is A KEY INGREDIENT. It's pretty much the only string that will attach the both of you.. There is definitely A HUGE DIFFERENCE between physically talking to each other and just.. virtually talking to each other.. The non verbal aspect while communicating is as important as the words coming out from your mouth. And neither one of you shouldn't except the other to, you know, read each others mind ( Girls tend to do that). Long distance takes SO MUCH effort but still, I think it's best to really go through it because at the end if you could genuinely feel how important you are to her despite the distance then, it's all worth it :)
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Hello Chris,
I know that i should give you some tips on how to keep a long distance relationship, but the fact is that there isn't any recipe you can follow in order to achieve that. I personally had a long distance relationship and i fought tooth and nail to maintain it until i realised that it was becoming a burden for both of us, because when you're far from each other, it's hard to resist temptations, so i knew that the smartest thing to do was to let her go or at least give her the freedom to explore, because this type of commitment can make you feel like you're trapped in a cage, you can't be next to the loved one and you can't be with other people either, so if you really love her and you cherish your friendship, you should wait until a "normal" relationship is possible. Because it's only one way this can end, and both of you will suffer if it does.
I'm sorry if i disappointed you, this is just my personal opinion, you should listen to your heart and act accordingly, but i don't know any cases in which a long distance relationship worked. Only if you keep it just for a period of time after which you can really be toghether.
Have a great life, hope everything will work out for the best!
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Lots of arguing, lots of making up, watch movies together, pick a tv series to watch and follow too, lots of texting during the day when it feels less long distance, don't ruin her life by taking screencaps when she is vulnerable.