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    JustRachel posted an update in the group Group logoGirl Talk 10 years, 1 month ago

    I don’t usually have a lot of really REALLY close friends outside of school but 6 months ago, I had gotten a best friend( a girl). We’ve been really close, have revealed a lot to each other, and have had our ups and downs.

    But recently, I had been feeling like my best friend hadn’t been treating me correctly, i.e. I would drive her places all the time and she would never say thank you, I would say a story or something and as soon as I would finish, she would change the topic, so I made a list of all these habits that had always bothered me that she would do, like the previously listed. I revealed the list to her and we haven’t talked since. I kind of regret it.

    I mean, I wasn’t rude when I said to her. I think she’s upset at me because she’s really sensitive or something.

    Looking back now, I didn’t reveal the list to her because I was annoyed or anything; I just told because I wanted her to know how I felt about the way she treated me. Did I do something wrong? What should I do now? I want my bestfriend back.

    Mood : Confused
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      quack-quack replied 10 years, 1 month ago

      People keep changing all the time. For different reasons. But they always remember how somebody made them feel.

      I personally think she liked being ’that person’ in your best-friend-relationship who gets to treat you that way and who gets you to do stuff for her. And now that she can’t have it, she is either sulking (subconsciously) or looking for another best-friend-relationship where she can have that.

      I really appreciate that you found it in yourself to share with her how you felt instead of self erupting in a passive aggressive way or getting angry at her. You gave her the benefit of doubt in assuming that she might not realize she is treating you that way. I think the least she could do is give you the same benefit of doubt.

      However, I think the case is more like she is having some issues that she needs to settle with herself.

      You be nice to her. We don’t know what is happening with her. Maybe she might just be busy.

      If she doesn’t treat you well, she was never the person you thought she was. So, see if you can let go after waiting for a while. Don’t ask her about it if she is trying to avoid you.