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andidear said 8 years, 11 months ago:

Do you ever feel like you’re just your significant other’s significant other? Because I spent my Christmas being “_____’s girlfriend” to people I’ve known for almost a year. Like, I love getting or making people stuff for Christmas that I know they’ll like, so I got my boyfriend’s D&D group all the same thing that I knew they’d really like, and it was like, “Wow, (boyfriend) this is really cool, (blah blah blah.) Okay well bye. Oh and uh, bye…you.” Like…I play WoW with you, I came to your wedding. I have a name. I’m salty like the Pacific today. Sorry. I made it all the way through the holidays without screaming and I need a vent.

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andidear said 8 years, 11 months ago:

I feel like an idiot. That seems so immature to say, but it’s just like I don’t get acknowledged as an individual and anything cool that I do is automatically my boyfriend’s doing. The more I think about it, the more I realize that this is a group of people who don’t think of me as an equal. I’m just ___’s girlfriend, and I don’t want to be that. So instead of being a big, butthurt baby about it, I’m just going to quietly make my exit and find some different people with the same interests. Somewhere out there is a group of nerds who will accept me as an individual with interests and who don’t think I’m just piggybacking off my boyfriend’s interests.

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Ramie99 said 8 years, 11 months ago:

I’m inexperienced in this area, however, I believe the choice you are making is the right one. If you feel as though you are on the sideline and unhappy with that fact, you can either speak up or move on to better things. No boyfriend/girlfriend should feel like you are invalid and just an accessory to someone else.

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