Aiya said 7 years, 5 months ago:

Trigger warning?!

I’m having some trouble with finding a good therapist. I’ve already tried 3 times.
The first one looked at me with pity in her eyes when I told her all that I’ve been through, and told me that my case was something that needed someone more skilled.
The second one (psychoanalyst) laugh at my face, and told me it was my fault that I was sexually abused when i was 5-10 years old, and beaten by a person that i used to care, I almost killed myself after he told me that.
And the last one, said to me that I need to forget the past, and I had to talk only about the things that were happening in the moment, that is not going to solve any of my problems.
Now, I think i’m doing ok by myself, in spite of all that. But I think i really need professional help, cause every little thing that happens is a reason for me to break all over again. But still, I don’t think I can trust any therapist again, and i don’t have any friends (that i could talk about this stuff) either. Idk what do to…

Michael said 7 years, 5 months ago:

Therapists will always be hit and miss in terms of who you actually get on with, you will need to make sure they’re properly qualified and licenced to practice however because there’s plenty of people out there that are willing to take your money and act like it. I’m sorry you’ve not had the best experiences with them, I can imagine how frustrating that is to be in a situation like that.

In terms of the past experiences, sure, they’re important you make peace with them, but no one is able to just switch it off and move on, we like to believe we have control in our lives and situations like that tend to do the opposite, so the first step would be to aim at creating more control over the present, doing that would help you with dealing with the past.
I can offer some advice on how to implement that into your life if you’d like, but it’s entirely up to you. Just drop me a private message if you don’t want to talk publicly.