TurtleGirl20 said 9 years, 11 months ago:

Wow, nicely said. Definitely me, I have been very hurt in the past and I don’t want it again, but I understand not everyone will do that. Maybe one day things will all work out. Thank you guys for helping me out even though this wasn’t even my forum topic.

Deleted User said 9 years, 11 months ago:

It’s also good to gain experience in recognizing people who are NOT nice and protecting yourself from them. Pay attention to the signs and behaviours of people.. behaviour patterns etc… then you will notice that similar people act and say similar things.. Put a little note in your mind to say “what out for a person that does so and so..” So as time goes by you get wiser and wiser and less likely to be hurt.. This takes time too. People say stupid things sometimes and it hurts people who are sensitive. Giving people a break and saying maybe they were just having a bad day and didn’t mean it.. I used to jump to conclusions on what people meant and found out later I overreacted.. really they meant something else.. so verify what that person meant before you get really hurt etc.. I’m glad I could help :-)

TurtleGirl20 said 9 years, 11 months ago:

I know some people like me say the wrong things at the wrong time, I understand that. No one is perfect, if I can’t be perfect I sure don’t expect someone else to be. I just want someone to respect me and I will gladly respect them. I need a guy in my life like that. Lol I waited 19 years that’s long enough, lol

Deleted User said 9 years, 11 months ago:

listen to badass music, feel like a badass, do badass things that a wimp wouldnt do till you get motivation, go to the GYM everyday till you see heads turning in your direction;p, your probably lacking testosterone from all that mommy coddling, MAN UP BRAH YOU CAN DO THIS!!

Annie. said 9 years, 11 months ago:

My social life is okay so I may not relate to you as much as the others do but if you want to be able to socialize more there’s nothing you can do but to make yourself feel more confident which can be help by doing productive activities such as going to the gym, expressing your feelings through art (writings, poems, etc), or simply listen to good music, really, anything that could make you feel better. Second, you have to stop thinking too much and just do it, just go out there and no excuse, go for it. Don’t over think it, do it like it’s the last thing you’re able to do, sometimes when I want to communicate with the opposite sex I just think of it as “he could be my soulmate and if I don’t talk to him now the next girl might win his heart” and I’d go there, socialize, and who knows how it goes, it may go a little awkward but if you’re confident, it wont be that much awkward, depends on who you’re talking to actually. Some people might be mean and closed or doesn’t show interest, for these type of people they maybe shy or are just arrogant, if they’re arrogant well then it’s their loss:)

swollenostrich said 9 years, 11 months ago:

It sucks cause i have no idea what im self conscious about. I just dont feel cool enough i guess to go talk to people. Im a dork. Stress is ruining me. And all of a sudden im jealous of all the happy couples

Miss.TalksAlot said 9 years, 11 months ago:

I read somewhere, that when you fake confidence you’ll gain it that way. Just don’t get an overdosis
of confidence.

Deleted User said 9 years, 11 months ago:

Um…I can sorta kinda relate to these. I’m an orphan and every couple I interview with don’t like me. It really hurts me. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

Garam said 9 years, 10 months ago:

An possible way to gain confidence is actrually to be challenged by some one to do something. It dont need to be about money or something really extreme. small things like “i bet you cant hit that trashcan with this paper from here” those small things sets you up to focus and make you do well.
And if you do great at things you feel like you can do more :)

It’s an option right?