Mutti said 9 years, 3 months ago:

How can i be happy without comparing my life with others?

Darklight said 9 years, 3 months ago:

By focusing on the positive aspects in your life.Like all the people who love you simply because you are you, for one. If you find that there is not a whole lot of positivity in your life,then that is where you should look to start fixing things.

sylph-dancer said 9 years, 2 months ago:

Mindset Shift #1: Everything Is Apples And Oranges

Seriously, everything in life is apples and oranges. Or apples and radio stations and hula hoops and oranges.

Basically, we’re all made up of hundreds and thousands of qualities, talents, flaws, things we’re good at, things we’re bad at, bad hair days, problems, physical ailments, etc.

And most of those are things go unseen all the time. Just like you wouldn’t want someone to make assumptions about you, it’s time to stop making assumptions about others.

In reality, you really can’t compare yourself to anyone properly because you’ll never know the totality of their experience.

Mindset Shift #2: It’s Time To Give Up The Scarcity Model

The real reason that you find it necessary to compare yourself to others is that you’ve fallen under the spell that says that good things are always scarce.

The scarcity model says that if the person that you’re comparing yourself to is (arguably) prettier than you, then that person has grabbed up too much of that thing called pretty and now there’s less for you.

Same thing goes for fame or money or talent or intellect — the belief that those things are scarce makes us compare ourselves to others in terms of how much of those things we have versus what they have.

When we lose this comparison battle, we feel bad, jealous, envious, and less than whole. When we win the comparison battle, we feel a bit of satisfaction mixed with an underlying fear that we may have won this battle, but what if things change and we lose out next time?

The key is to reconnect with your sense of abundance. For example, if you feel like everyone is more beautiful than you, start to look for beauty everywhere, particularly in people whom you might not normally think of as beautiful.

You may find it easier to then see that beauty in yourself.

When you notice yourself comparing yourself to someone else, stop yourself, and take a moment to just send them and yourself love.

Just send them love and send yourself some love and move on.

That’s it.

This technique does three important things. First, it stops you from comparing yourself and puts your attention on something else.

Second, it acknowledges an important truth, that we are all one and we all need love.

Third, it gives you what you really need, a sense that you are loved and you are okay, no matter how you compare to anyone else.

From here: http://everydayfeminism.com/2013/03/why-you-should-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others-and-how-to-do-it/