Othervoices said 8 years, 6 months ago:

I was molested when I was younger, and I assume this all stems from that. The problem is I can never seem to have an orgasm, or feel really into it, in fact most of the time I’m just kind of numb deep down, when I’m with my partner. If I do orgasm its because I am pleasuring myself while they are on top of me. I don’t think my sex life is healthy or as pleasurable as it could be. I hardly even fantasize. And when I do pleasure myself, I’m not really thinking of anything…

stomatic penguin said 8 years, 6 months ago:

i think that you could be asexual and just find sex or pleasuring yourself as a chore i think that you should just experiment a bit and see if there is something you havent tried

Michael said 8 years, 6 months ago:

Most women don’t have orgasms unless they rub themselves while their partner is on top. The thing is with women is that if their mind is somewhere else then they don’t let go and give into the moment and a womens pleasure is all in the mind