Maddie .x said 4 years, 2 months ago:

So probably about three days ago, my female friend came out to me. She said that she’s been hiding her true sexual orientation since 6 years ago. She has also been hiding her feeling of love towards one of her female friend since day one of school (we’ve just entered the 2nd year). And now, she sorta develops feelings towards our junior.
She’s so frickin confused and afraid til now. She told no other soul but me and our counseling teacher. To be honest I have no idea on what she needs to do. She said that 55% part of her wants to go in to the lgbt world, but her parents and her religion (cause she came from a very religious family) own the 45% of the probability and it kinda holds her back to reveal her true self.
Keep in mind that we live in one of a southeast asian country and the people here are not really okay about same sex relationship.
I’m okay with her and I was not even disgusted when she told me that thing (which was what she’s afraid of).
I really need to know what your opinion on this particular case, guys. Maybe your thoughts can help her and her future (?)
Thank you! I really appreciate any of your feedback!
Love .x

rinseandrep said 4 years, 2 months ago:

It sounds like she is in a tough spot like all young people facing having a sexuality which is not mainstream, and it’s ok if she takes her time and stays under the radar until she has the means and circumstances to safely be herself.

So I guess for now treat her as you would treat a friend who has a crush on a guy she can’t have, listen to her or distract her by inviting her to do nice fun things together, and in general respect her secret and show her she can have friends who accept her for what she is.