Jess said 10 years, 8 months ago:

(Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans*gender, or Queer (umbrella term for not straight sexualities).

When do you realize that you were either not straight or not cisgender?

I feel like I discovered a bit late, but it’s probably average.

I started questioning when I was 15, and probably completely realized when I was 16. I wish I figured it out a littler earlier though. Sometimes I get flashbacks to my childhood and be like “yep, there’s a sign”, “there’s another sign”, “wtf man another how did i not figure out earlier”.

What about you?

Finis said 10 years, 8 months ago:

I’ll be 18 soon and I’m still not sure what i am.When i used to play house when i was little i always was the father(im a girl though) and when we played with dolls(teddy bears mostly) i always played a male character.I did’t like barbies and if i had to play with a female i chose the child most cases.I didn’t see it wrong for a girl to be with a girl or a boy to be with a boy.I kinda act more masculine than lady like to this day.I am attracted to boys and sometimes girls,but the latter thought I dont let go too wild…I think I’m trying to be,to chose straight,and i would’t come as bi to anyone… even myself?o_O

Sonette said 10 years, 8 months ago:

I was probably the most sexually and romantically oblivious person until 10th grade. But it was in middle school when I realized that apparently girls are attracted to boys because of their bodies and body parts. Only parts I liked was when there were really pretty eyes or hair.
This was basically when I was in 6th grade. I had had no idea that it was okay to not be straight. After the sex ed class where they finally explained that a boy’s wiener was more than just a short peeing hose. I was disgusted and truly wondered why female would want to have that happen to them. I then discovered via the internet that there were people who were gay, bi and such. People who weren’t straight. I have only recently become more comfortable and accepting of myself and my sexuality since I got a lot of teasing for it at first and had felt like it was a bad thing to be gay.

uglyfairy said 10 years, 8 months ago:

I used to always say I was straight, and then my friends would tell me “You’re not straight if you wanna make out with girls.” “You’re not straight if you look at pictures of girls and think they’re hot.” “You’re not straight if you have a crush on a girl.” I genuinely thought that I was just an open-minded straight person, if that makes sense. Like I thought my friends were just really prude or something for not being somewhat interested in girls, too. Plus, I have a lesbian friend who is completely disgusted by penises. And, obviously I’m not! I’m not confused about my sexuality anymore, but I don’t really prefer to label it. I like girls, and I like boys, but I do think that I have developed stronger emotional connections with boys. Whether I like boys more, or I just haven’t met the right girls yet~ I don’t know. I don’t think sexuality needs labels. If one applies to you that’s good, but if not so what, y’know? I would say I really discovered myself more this past year. So age 17!!

Charlie said 10 years, 8 months ago:

I think I was 12 years old when I started to notice guys as much as I do with women. I never thought much of it, and I guess I still don’t, but I’ve accepted my bisexuality though never really labeled myself as bisexual until my friends told me that’s what I am…

TheQueen said 10 years, 3 months ago:

Well, I was pretty young, actually. Only thirteen. I remember taking photos on my grade eight camp of this girl I thought was cute. She ended up being my first kiss, actually. I thought of myself as bisexual until recently, when I discovered there a more sexualities than I thought. I now consider myself pansexual, and I am dating a bisexual girl.

Storm said 10 years, 3 months ago:

Mine happened over a span of years as I realized “I can be what I want”
When I was 11 or 12 I realized I was panromantic (No one had educated me that there were genders outside the binary, or the difference between -sexual and -romantic, so at the time I identified as bisexual)
When I was 14 pansexual was explained to me, and I realized that was the word I’d been looking for.
about 6 months after that, I found the difference between -sexual and -romantic, and that it was alright that I was cool being in a relationship with any gender, but didn’t really want to have sex with anyone. Panromantic asexual.
And about 10 months after that, at 15, I was finally solidly introduced to non-binary genders, and that it was totally cool that I was a guy some days and a girl others and something in between most of the time. Which brings me to the long winded conclusion of Panromantic asexual genderfluid.

Deleted User said 10 years, 3 months ago:

I think I started really, REALLY questioning myself at around 12. Looking back on my life before that, I notice there were some…”signs,” so to speak. Like, here’s one sign! Oh, there’s another!

However, I think it’s once I kind of learned about some things about myself when I was 12 that catalyzed it all for me. It was when I figured out I didn’t just like girls…but also guys. (This was, by the way, sometime either during or after sixth grade.) Then later on, in seventh grade (I was still twelve back then), my best friend (whom I’ve known since fourth grade) used a word I had recently (at the time) learned the concept of: bisexual. More specifically, she said that after she explained the phrase “I don’t go that way” to me.

Seventh grade was also the time I started to develop feelings for guys. I’d also, earlier/later on, developed feelings for girls as well. In retrospect, I know this to be a tried and true case: I’m attracted to both women AND men. Not equally, but I know I still fit the criteria of “bisexual.”

So, bisexual I am! And I went through the phases of questioning myself after 12 as well (I questioned myself once again a few months ago). But then I remember who I was/am attracted to and it falls back into place for me! I’m that bisexual guy!