Over the many years of their lives, trees get plenty of scars. When they’re saplings, the cuts hit deep the most. They cover most of the tree and become a big part of who they are. The scars show clearly on the surface. People let their scars define them, they see it as a source of shame. Many young children have deep scars. They hope that one day their scars will heal and everything will be alright.
But scars don’t heal, just like scars on trees. What does happen, though, is the tree grows bigger and bigger. The scars don’t get any smaller, but as the tree grows the scars become a smaller part of the tree. When we grow, as people, the scars that once haunted us become a smaller part of who we are. New memories, new beliefs, and new people who are introduced into our lives help us become something more. Even though the pain may not go away, all of the things we have learned in our lives help us deal with it.
Please, don’t run from your scars. Don’t let them define you, let them strengthen you. Even though it may be hard to accept, it has become a part of you. Hiding from the truth of what happened to you is like burying a part of you away. Eventually, it will surface and only bring you pain. Sometimes, no matter how difficult, acceptance is the only way forward.
Hiding wounds is like digging graves in a cemetery. You only have so many wounds you can handle, just like you only have so many graves you can dig. Eventually there’ll be no more space left and all the work you put into burying your problems will be for nothing. They will surface, and you’ll find yourself with a whole lot of ditches that run deep down into darkness.
I don’t remember where I heard this, but it’s a nice analogy that I thought I’d share with you all . I remember the first time I read all this, it opened my eyes. Don’t forget your pain, but don’t let it define you!