Bodies Under Siege: Self-Mutilation and Body Modification in Culture and Psychiatry By Armando R. Favazza
Bodily Harm: The Breakthrough Healing Program for Self-Injurers By Karen Conterio
A Bright Red Scream: Self-Mutilation and the Language of Pain By Marilee Strong
Cutting: Understanding and Overcoming Self-Mutilation By Steven Levekron
The Scarred Soul: Understanding & Ending Self-Inflicted Violence By Tracy Alderman
Secret Scars: Uncovering and Understanding the Addiction of Self-Injury By V.J. Turner
Self Injury: Psychotherapy with People Who Engage in Self-Inflicted Violence By Robin Connors
Skin Game: A Cutter’s Memoir By Caroline Kettlewell
Women and Self-Harm: Understanding, Coping, and Healing from Self-Mutilation By Gerrilyn Smith
Women Living with Self-Injury By Jane Wegscheider Hyman
Stopping the Pain: A Workbook for Teens Who Cut & Self-Injure
2. Ok, also understandable.
3. And here is where this post goes to shit.
Sorry, but this is utterly stupid.
@brokenstatue Agreed ._.
Not everyone is religious like that. I agree with Jess. God doesn’t ‘own’ our bodies. Nobody ‘owns’ it. Self harm is not a sin. They’re not going to lock people up in institutions when they self harm. People often talk behind people’s backs anyway, whether they self harm or not. Sometimes people have scars, it’s not always from self harm and there’s no shame in having scars. Saying that ‘the devil’ would be happy when someone cuts is just feeding that dark voice and the dark thoughts that someone might have. I’m not so religious at all, but if what I’m doing is making the devil happy in your eyes, then it is what it is. My life already is a hell, so I might as well go to hell. In my opinion, all this talk about god is just a load of crap. It might be what you believe and that’s good for you, but that doesn’t mean it’s good for others.
People are not suddenly going to achieve what you may see as some form of enlightenment and suddenly stop harming themselves because of what you’ve said. Telling people other people will feel bad if they hurt themselves doesn’t really help AT ALL. In some cases it’ll just make them feel worse because you’re putting other people’s wishes above theirs, when they’re equally important to anyone else. I get you may have good intentions, but making people feel guilty about their chosen ways of coping isn’t going to help, rather create more harm. It also probably doesn’t help at all that you’ve stated methods of people killing themselves, even though they probably already know. I’m glad that God gives you personally a reason not to do those things, but this doesn’t help for people who aren’t religious, and for people who are religious if they are doing this, it’ll probably just make them feel worse and that’ll just ensure the habit rather than stop it. Stopping self-harming is a lot more difficult than you believe, and although I wish people would never turn to it, it’s their method of coping with difficulties in their lives. Address the reasons why they’re doing it, rather than making them feel guilty for something they can’t control. Having scars isn’t something to be ashamed of, and if people do judge others for that, people who self-harm are better off without those people in their lives. PEOPLE NEED SUPPORT, NOT JUDGEMENT.
This post angers me to new levels. This is fucking sick. If anyone is upset about what they read here, if you’re feeling low after reading this, if you’re in need of someone who TRULY understands self-harm, feel free to message me. These are awful things to tell someone who self-harms. Absolutely dreadful.
Just a word of warning, the OP has been Bible thumping constantly for about a week now, and it hasn’t been that successful. Any attempts to get them to stop the mythological abuse will only lead to them claiming they are oppressed.
I’ve already been in a long, long disagreement with this person, but that doesn’t mean I (or anyone else) should back down and let her get away with what she’s doing. She needs to be told.
I love this line “PEOPLE NEED SUPPORT, NOT JUDGEMENT” @Risingarpeggio
@AWritersPerspective That post is all sorts of WRONG!
im Christian but your post could really hurt others so im asking you to think wisely before you post and others may have a different religion too anyway and we should respect that
A few sentences of this post is good. The rest is incredibly offensive.
I’m an atheist. I believe in science, not magic. Some people are Christian on here, they believe in the teachings of God, not this preachy nonsense.
I’m just saying, don’t post things like this. To be there is no God. Never was and never will be. Does that make me wrong? No.
So the entire post is essentially irrelevant if you aren’t an avidly strong minded Christian.
This makes me physically ill. I personally have selfharmed and I find this offensive. I see that you are a religious person so I feel as though you might need a reminder of what Matthew 7:1 says “Judge not, that he be not judged”. I do not appreciate this judgement being placed upon us. We all have different circumstances. We are not all like you. We have struggles and different reasons for self-harm. Who are you to judge us? Most of us try our hardest to stop, but it becomes addictive. We need support, not judgement. I hope that you can figure out that this is not in the least helpful to us. We know that we’re broken. We don’t need someone to shame us for that.
This topic should get deleted. Since all it does is upset and offend people.
I find this offensive and it makes me sick to my stomach. This needs to be taken down immediately and it’s obviously hurting and making people upset. So much negative and not enough positive. My goodness, regardless of what you believe, you are wrong for posting something like this. Please think before you post stuff like this in a group about mental illness. This is utterly wrong, and I hope you feel bad for making others feel worse if they are reading this and it’s making them sad. I want others to realize that self harm does not in any circumstance do any of those things. We all have our reasons for self harm and how we deal with them is up to to the person doing it. It’s not a sin, it’s not going to send you to a looney bin, it’s just going to put cracks in your beautiful skin from your emotional toll you took and thought it was your only way out. I send thoughts and good vibes to everyone who self harms, it’s not easy to get over, but it’s def not impossible. <3 I'm here for you because I've done it for years and got over it and it took a long time.
The majority of these reasons are invalid for me I just don’t have the emotional energy to go through them one by one. What I will say, though, is that you shouldn’t be threatening people with being locked up in an institution. First of all, it will just make those who self harm more afraid to tell others and get help, and besides, IT’S NOT TRUE. My parents know I self harm and they didn’t put me in an institution or a psych ward for that matter. Also, they didn’t take away my razors because they know I’ll just find something else and because they realize that it is my coping skill if I can’t do it I would probably attempt suicide (again).