bigheart said 9 years, 2 months ago:

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I started dating this guy we were great together
but he was moving very fast that he said (i love u ) in a week or so
after a month we had a big fight which made him realize he isnt in love with me
but he is very attracted to me and he likes me alot
we had a break …
but he came back a week later telling me he wants us to get back together
but to move super slow
it has been 5 months and he is still moving very slow
i tried talking about it , he said i dont want to be hasty
he want it to take its time
the thing is he is afraid to be romantic with me
he doesn’t even say a nice word and if he does with out feeling he change the word instantly
the thing is i do agree we should move slow but not this slow
almost 5 months passed and we are still in the same place
he isnt even moving an inch
and he say its for the best
though he doesn’t accept the idea of me being away from him
we work together and he clings to me very tight
if i dont come to work he instantly call to check on me
when he hugs me he hugs very tight i feel my ribs is about to break

but still he is just too slow i need attention and he isn’t giving me any ..
i take alot of care of him on the other hand
and if i stop he tells me in being mean and im the only thing he got …

plz help

Maybelle said 9 years, 1 month ago:

I’m in a similar situation at the moment. I think it is possible that the reason he is moving at such a snail’s pace right now is because he is so afraid of losing you. Giving love physically may scare him, even if it doesn’t scare you. There are all sorts of underlying issues that could be contributing to his feelings too. I know that my boyfriend has lots of self-confidence issues, which leads him to be hasty to say “i love you”, and then once he has confirmed the connection he doesn’t feel the need to establish it further. I think you need to confront him about this, in a serious setting, to figure out whether any of these underlying issues apply to him. If he is unwilling to talk, or you have any further questions, just let me know, anytime