I had only one “serious” relationship, and the answer is clearly no. It was very abusive, she tried to change me for her little comfort, she was jealous, controlling, tried to cut me away from my friends and my mother, she wouldn’t touch me anymore after I had top surgery, she prevented me from persuing my passions, was nearly a compulsive buyer, had violent outburst sometimes… and threatened to kill herself if I left her.
Really not the wife I wish to anyone. I should have left her from the start. But the past can’t be rewritten so I just hope her next partner has solid nerves and a solid temper.