Kaede said 9 years, 8 months ago:

My social skills arent the greatest either,I feel jealous whenever I see people have fun with eachother or when I see friends on FB or tumblr having fun with eachother. its just not fair and Im always the one who has to text first woth my current friends, it makes me feel unwanted

Quiet-Emerald said 9 years, 8 months ago:

I can relate to that.

acatslifeforme said 9 years, 8 months ago:

I know how you feel. I am always texting people first. I feel so annoying. Out of all the friends I made at college I have hardly talked to any of them this summer. If you want to talk, just send me a message!

Marzipan said 9 years, 3 months ago:

I feel that way too… so sometimes i try not to think that way about myself and if I am lucky to have a conversation with someone I try to ask them a lot of qquestions about them never about me… it doesn’t always work… but i ahve one or two friends that stuck around after that :-)

Deleted User said 9 years, 1 month ago:

You are not alone…

Tom said 8 years, 6 months ago:

When you feel shut out from everyone due to lack of social skills it is like you are having to walls on either side of you when you are walking around anywhere and no one can penetrate them. Due to emotional abuse I suffered when young I still have trouble with this now that I am older. It is so difficult to want to penetrate these walls and always finding resistance of some sort.

mariko said 8 years, 6 months ago:

I recommend you two things: first invite them again, ask them directly “do you want to hang out at this time and place?” and if they give you lame excuses, darling, find new friends. When people can’t have even 5 mins to spend with you, you know you don’t have the right type of friends. I’ve been where you are so I know what I’m talking about.
Also, question yourself if you’re actually being social enough. Sure texting is a great way to socialise and knowing if your friends are interested but.. you HAVE to talk to people face to face. You have to get out of your confort zone. Meet new people,make new friends. Don’t hold to the same friends group, cause if something bad happens (like now) you’ll feel all alone you know?
Try to go into a hobby, volunteering, anything that makes you meet people and make friends.
This is truly the best and most honest advice I can give you when it comes to stop being lonely and making friends.
And believe me, you can do this. If I could, you can too :)
And if you need any more help or anyone to talk too, feel free to message me.
Wish you the best of luck!