PeachTrie said 8 years, 10 months ago:

I’m a loser because I have no friends. I havent been able to make friends for over 7 years now. Yes I’ve tried it all. I join groups, talk to random people, present myself as open and approachable, go out on the town, try new things. Of course I’ve met ppl and made acquaintances. But not one person on this planet considers me a friend. At the end of the day I’m still a loser.

rinseandrep said 8 years, 10 months ago:

What kind of friend are you? What do you offer to people? If you had to write an honest ad for yourself as a friend, what would it say?

lilly said 8 years, 10 months ago:

I’m a loser because I’m scared of friendship. I make friends really easy but I lose them easier. I’m scared of what they might think of me so I just stop talking to them. I’m afraid they might hurt me or go behind my back.

PeachTrie said 8 years, 10 months ago:

What kind of friend could I be? I would cherish any person who came into my life as a faithful friend. I would love them like family and treat our friendship like a once in a lifetime opportunity.

But most people dont care about that. They already have friends. I’m the only one desperate for one. While they would be a “Priceless” addition to my life, I would only be considered “Disposable” to them

rinseandrep said 8 years, 10 months ago:

Yeah, it sounds like a huge standard to meet from the start. Maybe you could lower your idea of friendship to something simpler, like being down to go out with someone to do something; being available to listen to their work problems for 5 minutes, then saying something sympathetic and changing subject so they get to vent but only for a reasonable time; having common interests and pursuing them together, etc. And save that kind of effort and expectations you described for the few good friends, often only 1 or 2, that one meets along his life. Or you could treat everybody like a friend, a family member and a cherished once in a lifetime opportunity. Why treat like that only people who have given you something back? Somebody who treats even their postman like a cherished presence in their life sounds like a happy person and nice to be around.

Zura said 8 years, 10 months ago:

I relate to Lilly in a way, it’s like whenever I let someone in they tend to find ways to make me feel bad about myself or worse, and I hate losing friends, I always wanna give them another chance but I know it’s for the best that I don’t even though I’m desperate for friends myself, it pains me to go through day after day alone, but for now it seems like it’s the only way to live life

Deleted User said 8 years, 10 months ago:

So you are a loser, everyone is a loser at some point.
How does being a loser make you feel?
Empty? Sad? Angry? Or a combination?

When you lose, realize why you are losing, make it up, work at it, let the loser feel motivate you.

You got to be a loser first to step up.

Abz said 8 years, 10 months ago:

you aren’t a loser maybe just lonely. the more you push yourself down the harder it will be for you to see the good in you and show it to people in order to make those friends, never give up hope. ok X

Scout-McCarthy said 8 years, 10 months ago:

Hey there. I think maybe you are underestimating yourself. You are by no means a loser. Sometimes, it’s really, really hard to make friends. I know I’m right there with you. If you ever need someone to talk to, my inbox is open. We may have never met before but your life is important to me, and I know I am not the only one. Stay strong, buddy.

Deleted User said 8 years, 7 months ago:

You are not a loser. And instead of trying to desperately find friends, maybe you need to be your own friend first? because no matter how many people you meet and become acquainted with, you can’t properly be their friend if you can’t be one to yourself, in my opinion. Feel free to message me or add me and say a quick hello. Believe in yourself more, there are dozens, millions of awesome people who haven’t met the wonderful you yet so don’t give up. <3