PeachTrie said 8 years, 10 months ago:

I’m a loser because I have no friends. I havent been able to make friends for over 7 years now. Yes I’ve tried it all. I join groups, talk to random people, present myself as open and approachable, go out on the town, try new things. Of course I’ve met ppl and made acquaintances. But not one person on this planet considers me a friend. At the end of the day I’m still a loser.

lilly said 8 years, 10 months ago:

I’m a loser because I’m scared of friendship. I make friends really easy but I lose them easier. I’m scared of what they might think of me so I just stop talking to them. I’m afraid they might hurt me or go behind my back.

rinseandrep said 8 years, 10 months ago:

Yeah, it sounds like a huge standard to meet from the start. Maybe you could lower your idea of friendship to something simpler, like being down to go out with someone to do something; being available to listen to their work problems for 5 minutes, then saying something sympathetic and changing subject so they get to vent but only for a reasonable time; having common interests and pursuing them together, etc. And save that kind of effort and expectations you described for the few good friends, often only 1 or 2, that one meets along his life. Or you could treat everybody like a friend, a family member and a cherished once in a lifetime opportunity. Why treat like that only people who have given you something back? Somebody who treats even their postman like a cherished presence in their life sounds like a happy person and nice to be around.

Deleted User said 8 years, 10 months ago:

So you are a loser, everyone is a loser at some point.
How does being a loser make you feel?
Empty? Sad? Angry? Or a combination?

When you lose, realize why you are losing, make it up, work at it, let the loser feel motivate you.

You got to be a loser first to step up.

Scout-McCarthy said 8 years, 10 months ago:

Hey there. I think maybe you are underestimating yourself. You are by no means a loser. Sometimes, it’s really, really hard to make friends. I know I’m right there with you. If you ever need someone to talk to, my inbox is open. We may have never met before but your life is important to me, and I know I am not the only one. Stay strong, buddy.