Deleted User said 10 years, 3 months ago:

Truthfully, I have to contest the concept of “using”.

In a love affair and all involved in it, there are two parties satisfying their own need for love, affection, or sexual pleasure. In an equal partnership it is a win-win situation, even if there is no long-term commitment involved. Therefore, I would say that most women do not care to be a wife to the man in question.

Those whoever who strive commitment to an already committed man (or woman, let’s face it, this thing goes bothways), suffer from a delusion. It is in a way madness, since they are performing one and the same action, expecting different results. “What if I wear this tonight? What if I make him dinner? Will he finally realise I am good enough for him?”

On the subconscious level, it could go as far as daddy (or mummy) issues. A man looking like one’s father could trigger emotions of abandonment or loss, which would make us pursue him endlessly, trying to prove that we are good enough.