User456 said 8 years, 11 months ago:

Offering to pay is the polite thing to do. If you want to display courtesy, then you should offer to pay. It’s sexist to think that the guy should always pay simply because he is the guy. But the smart thing to is to let him for as much as possible, as that will save you money. That is cynical, but money is very important. If he is willing to pay, then let him.

big pipsqueak said 8 years, 11 months ago:

I’m pretty broke right now so I can’t really be paying for dates, unless I take out money from my teeny bank account, which I’ve been doing way too often lately. I just feel like it’s kind of my unspoken duty to offer to pay.

rinseandrep said 8 years, 11 months ago:

You can also just tell him that you can’t pay right now so if he wants to keep dating, he’s always going to have to pay, and let him decide if it’s ok. Remember that if he is ok with it, you will not owe him anything due to him paying.
On your part, you can try to be ok with cheap dates/activities, if it makes you feel better.

twinings said 8 years, 10 months ago:

I think it’s polite to offer to pay. The culture of women ranting about equality then demanding the man pays is slightly irritating to me.

But if I didn’t have much money then I’d thank him for his generosity so far then arrange a cheap picnic date or something to show that I care but a low cost option

In all my relationships I’ve always split the bill half or taken turns to pay for things and it’s worked well.

Hope you feel better about it, don’t feel guilty you seem caring and sensible and I’m sure he understands

Dora said 8 years, 9 months ago:

I think it’s the best if everyone pays for their own. Or if you take turns. But sure, if you don’t have money right now it’s very nice of him to offer to pay, just as it would be of you if the situation was reverse