Deleted User said 8 years, 10 months ago:

Online relationships, of course are risky and everyone needs to be careful of who they’re talking to. There are a lot of phonies, as well as pedophiles out there but do you think that online relationships are worth trying? I don’t wanna judge people who are searching for love (most especially the lonely ones) but is it really possible to fall in love with a person that you just met through the internet?

Falling in love with someone that you just met online is like falling in love with a mask. It’s easy to come up with different personas online and to flatter anyone with sweet lies… or rather, complements, and to hide your real self from the virtual world.

I always guard myself and I always vow to myself that I’d never fall into this trap but I’ve been liking someone recently. He may not be physically attractive and he may not have the all the qualities that I look for in a guy but what makes him attractive is that he’s a good listener and he’s very patient with me. He always listens to me carefully and he’s literally the only one who never judged me. We usually end up chatting for hours- we would talk until the wee hours of the morning. He’s usually the one who initiates the conversation and I appreciate that.

I try to remain objective and rational about the situation but I end up liking him, though not necessarily falling in love with him, if you know what I mean. Is there anything wrong with me liking him? And do you think that he likes me too? I don’t wanna formulate my own conclusions but do you think that a guy would normally sacrifice his sleep for a girl in order to know her better?

I would love to hear from you guys. If you have anything to say, then please be honest with me. Thanks

rinseandrep said 8 years, 10 months ago:

He definitely enjoys your company, although sacrificing his sleep for you might be too much, from experience he might be afraid to ruin this relationship with you by setting some limits, or is dismissing the problem happily while slowly getting stressed, until it explodes in an argument.

From how you describe it, this seems like a friendship, since his main perks are listening and patience, it’s fine to have online friends, so get to know him well to deal with your (rightful) skepticism, in a climate of reciprocal disclosure, getting his facebook for example, official stuff, so you build a good trust before possible future developments in a romantic way.

Deleted User said 8 years, 10 months ago:

I met that guy here on blahtherapy a few months ago. He asked for my skype & facebook after talking to me for quite some time here. And we’ve been chatting a lot on facebook ever since he asked for my it

Vivid Melody said 8 years, 10 months ago:

Yes, it is possible (to fall for someone online) just as it is possible to be fooled by someone offline.

I have no idea if he likes you as I don’t know him. All guys are different. But it does sound like he is interested in you especially if he always initiates the conversations and asked you for your Facebook info.

If you want help in checking if someone is for real, Google Plus has a recognize my face feature where you can put his profile pic in there to see if it comes up else where on the net.

Deleted User said 8 years, 10 months ago:

*Ever since he asked for it. Thanks guys!

Deleted User said 8 years, 10 months ago:

Well clearly, your not objective or remotely rational, from my perspective, as an online relationship is not something Id ever consider, it just seems to weak to me.
I would say though your lonely, and filling up the void with this person.
Maybe its because you have way too much free time on your hands.
I wont suggest anything about the relationship, whether its good/bad. Rather make your life busy, and then see how much time you can devote/how you feel of this person then!
Its natural when you invest yourself in someone, for feelings to develop, its upto to you to decide whether its the right one.

Staceylou said 8 years, 10 months ago:

I think he likes you, from what you say anyway. I’ve had three online relationships, 2 never amounted to anything, one of the two stood me up when we decided to meet. I met my last boyfriend online, we had a relationship online for a few months and decided to meet up, worked for us so far.

You just need to decide if it’s worth it or not.