(◣_◢)Poet said 10 years, 7 months ago:
Same applies to guys. number one sign of a guy with confidence issues is him feeling he can’t get the girl he wants. here is the primary difference between men and women, and a reason it will always be better to be a male; ANY girl will date ANY guy, but ANY guy won’t date ANY girl. men are much more picky than women when it comes to picking women.
here is how men pick women:
1. first we screen the possibilities. this is the stage in which we almost instantaneously eliminate all women we absolutely would not be with in any romantic/physical way, no matter the personality or other possible gains. depending on where you are, this eliminates anywhere from 5-99% of the women in that zone.
2. now with whatever is left, we rate them on looks, best to worst, not so much 1-10, because this is like taste testing as supposed to final judgements, as overall ratings can change when considering other factors, which leads us to #3.
3. prioritizing our values in relation to the available selection. maybe none of them jump out as gorgeous, so we go to what’s most important after looks, such as personality, her personal skills (sex, cooking, is she smart, what does she offer, why her over the others?).
4. and then you go through them all again for an assessment of potential. now men don’t usually go after women with the intent of changing them, that’s typically something women do with men, but the most a male wants to do is humble the female if she isn’t already, at least to his role.
5. next, you go over whether procreating is a priority for you, because depending on that, you may eliminate even more of the crop based on genetics, family, and even looks, as your child will share those in some combination with your own.
i could probably add a few more, but that’s just some to give example that while women can be shallow and ignorant, as can men. as a guy, you’d be surprised how many girls want to be with you but deal with the same confidence issues you do, and its worst because for the most part women still expect men to chase them and it feels unnatural if they have to chase you….i myself prefer to be the chased, unless of course she jumps out at me as someone unique, which has only happen…once maybe, and she is the greatest plague to never relinquish my mind; i’ll probably die with her in my thoughts.
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