Ivanovg said 10 years, 5 months ago:

Hello. I need some opinions! My boyfriend and I met at college but he started to talk to me on Facebook, he had a girlfriend at the time, we kept talking, he started to liked me and he left her and HE DIDN´T cheat on her with me. We have been together for a year now and I feel he is going to do to me what he did to his ex. He adds lots of girls, likes them pictures and chat with them. This makes me jealous of course and I have told him to stop but he keeps doing it. When we are together he is the best, but he keeps doing this so I feel the need to check his profile every 10 minutes. I´m not going to chat with other guys just to make him feel what I feel cause I’m not like that, so what should I do? Do I break up with him? I know he has the right of having his life and his privacy, but all this girls he adds are those kind of girls that post semi-naked pictures and are kinda easy.

OhHeyYou said 10 years, 5 months ago:

First, it’s great that you’ve acknowledged that doing what he does will not resolve anything. If he doesn’t listen to you, that’s a sign of something disrespectful. If he wanted to look at semi-naked girls, why can’t he just look at pics on google or watch porn? Away from you and the public eye? He does have a right to privacy, and checking facebooks and other media is a complaint guys have about their girls, so while maybe you shouldn’t have been checking so often and getting yourself worked up about it, he’s also sort of in the wrong here. So honestly, if you feel like your relationship is headed south, or like you can’t express your feelings, whether on this topic or others, with him respecting and listening to your opinion, then maybe it’s not a relationship you want to be in.

Riss said 10 years, 5 months ago:

I agree with OhHeyYou. The fact that you aren’t retaliating in a similar fashion is a huge deal, because generally that ends up making things worse.

I think you should talk to him about how his actions make you feel and explain your insecurities surrounding the relationship — like how you don’t want him to repeat what led to your relationship with a different girl. It’s completely understandable. My significant other and I have been dating for several years and before we got together, we were best friends — and he had a girlfriend. Regardless of the fact that nothing happened between us while he was with his ex, we both made it very clear we wouldn’t like it if either of us developed close relationships with the opposite sex. It’s just a matter of protecting what you have. Although some may argue that you should feel secure enough to be able to develop those relationships, I think it’s perfectly normal to be a little weary of the situation.

So, like I said, my advice is to talk it out with him and see what he says. Hopefully he’ll understand and put a stop to it. Otherwise, moving on might be in your best interest. You don’t want to be with someone who makes you feel insecure or negative.

I hope that helps! :)

Deleted User said 10 years, 5 months ago:

well facebook is an online dating platform , always was and will be, and he is doing just that, facebook has been such a pain in the ass for me in relationships, i set my privacy at max and dont allow any tags/pic tags.
I think if hes chatting up other chicks on fb, its like as in real life flirting, and hes doing so fully aware of it, so he might not value your relationship with him as much as you do, but they might be just classmates/ co workers, so your concern might be unjustified, but from what you mentioned in your post, i doubt that. you could just be a modern couple and get off Facebook, honestly that shit is nearing its end!
just talk to him about it, and yeah i feel the same thing is gonna happen as last time, he doesnt sound like a dude who learns from his mistakes in relationships, just repeats them over and over..