mothtoflame said 10 years, 6 months ago:

Just wanted to know a guy’s perspective on the dreaded friend zone. I am particularly interested in if you could see yourself going from thinking of a girl as only a friend, with no potential for more, to thinking of her as a someone you’d date. I’m curious, because i’ve always thought that in my romantic relationships, i’d want a best friend that i was also attracted to. I have many best guy friends, and was wondering if you thought that one day, there may be potential for something more there…if a girl friend can escape the friend zone and become a girlfriend. And perhaps what it takes to get there!

Deleted User said 10 years, 6 months ago:

It’s totally possible – if they find you physically attractive. I’ve had a number of female friends where I’ve realized that we get on fantastically, and it was a like a switch was flipped and I suddenly thought of them in a more romantic context.

Logseman said 10 years, 6 months ago:

“Friend zone” is a hideous concept, as it implies that being friendly towards someone entitles you to sex. Just be honest with your feelings when you deal with other people. The “friend zone” concept devalues friendship, as it assigns a sexual intention to it.

mothtoflame said 10 years, 6 months ago:

thanks for all of the replies! all very good stuff, and good to know. it’s funny how people can be in our lives for years, then one day just randomly become attractive to us, or that we see them in a new light!