LeeBar said 9 years, 10 months ago:

I don’t believe this in an inappropriate topic either. Personally, I believe its what works for you. Rough sex can encompass a bit of rolling around or it could be as far as BDSM. Only upon reading this did I consider some sort of connection between rough sex and rape. Due to the fact the rough sex is consensual and rape is not, as previously mentioned, I don’t really see why rape had to be brought up at all. If you are nervous about trying it, then start with little things to see how you feel. Communicate with whoever you are with, and if you are not comfortable, voice this, and find something else that works.

Deleted User said 9 years, 9 months ago:

@willowblossom let’s calm down. there’s no reason to blame game rape victims for trauma they didn’t ask for. all that needs to be said is that when rough sex is being described as consensual it has nothing to do with rape and should probably be avoided by victims who have PTSD.

Samantha said 9 years, 9 months ago:

@nightcrawler No one was blaming rape victims? Alls I said is that everyone has the choice to click or ignore whatever they please when they go on the internet. If you have sensitive triggers or PTSD due to past traumas in your life, then maybe it’s best to stay away from these topics, rather than try to make other people feel bad for wanting to talk about it, which @PerfumedDog had clearly done by calling the original topic poster a “molester” and a “rapist,” which was completely uncalled for.

@PerfumedDog It’s all fine and dandy to come forward and stand up for yourself as a rape victim when you’re being treated unfairly or people are being inconsiderate of you by throwing things in your face; however, @Danielle was not doing that to you. She posted a topic, seeming sincerely intrigued by people’s opinions on the subject of “rough sex,” and you rudely harassed HER by calling her inappropriate things. And as far as “rape role playing” or “rape fantasy,” it completely blows my mind that you take “rough sex,” and turn it into those things, which are completely unrelated. Surely “rape role playing” etc. can fall under the category of “rough sex,” but it wasn’t specifically brought out by anyone on this topic. You’re the only one that made those correlations, and it’s sickening. I understand that this is a therapy forum, and perhaps it’s not “appropriate,” in some people’s eyes; but regardless, YOU chose to click on it and read what people were saying. No one forced you to do so. Perhaps @Danielle posted the topic because her husband requested it, and she needed to know how people felt about it, in order to get a general idea of it, and that falls perfectly in a therapy forum, on a site where people are looking for advice. Maybe it’s you who should respect that.

Deleted User said 9 years, 9 months ago:

“it’s like mutual rape” have you heard of a dictionary? rape is non consensual TRAUMATIC sexual abuse.
as for whether any other type of sex is boring or not isn’t for you to decide. everyone has different tastes.