czshadow I am sorry to hear your story.
PassionateAboutMe- The only way to do it is to be upfront and honest.
My partner and I are facing the possibility of never having children and I have been honest the whole way. He has been really understanding. Google is also a good friend or even giving him some flyers on PCOS.
The way I started out was the old “Hey babe have you ever thought about having children?”
Followed up with.
“What do you think about IVF?”
“What do you think about adoption/ fostering?”
“If we discovered we could never have kids how would you feel? Would it be the end of your world if you couldn’t?”
Then explaining why. I have been lucky with him as our chances are very slim and he has promised me a pony and 7 dachshunds if we can’t have babies.