Mars said 10 years, 10 months ago:
I’ve seen this from a lot of people I know. I haven’t seen too many people around Blah doing it, but it’s still important to think about!
Many people look at other people’s problems subjectively, since they usually try to help someone by looking back at their own experiences surrounding a similar issue so that they can give better advice. This is oftentimes bad because something that may not be a big deal for you could be the worst thing that could happen to someone else. No matter what the issue, the severity of peoples’ feelings is legitimate, even if you personally believe that what they’re dealing with is no big deal.
For example, a 14-year-old may be an 8 on the devastation scale after a break up. You might think that doesn’t matter, but it doesn’t change the fact that they’re horribly upset. Someone with BPD might feel crushed under the false illusion of exclusion, but it doesn’t make their feelings any less justifiable.
Don’t link the severity of emotion with your opinionated view on the severity of their problem!
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