Not only have I found a person like this but a few. I am very wealthy when it comes to friendship. I could leave my place come home to find it burn to the ground. All my worldly possessions gone in a blaze and I don’t think I would flinch or shed a tear. I would pick up my phone… call a friend and I know everything would be fine. Any number of people would take me in for as long as I needed to get back on my feet.
So many stories but as an example. I was out with some friends camping and I don’t travel long distances well so I have to take gravol and sleep or I’ll get really sick. On the long trip back from camping the vehicle we were in broke down on the highway and I woke up when the vehicle stopped. We were sort of stranded by had called for help. About that time a good friend of mine called me to see what I was up to. I let him know my situation and immediately without saying a thing he was in his car. Only reason I knew this was because he said “okay so where are you I’m coming to get you?” I didn’t ask for help… I didn’t even really need help but the first thought on his mind was “friend is in trouble time to get him out.” I told him we were fine that help was already on the way but he would have drove 2 hours just to help out a friend.
All of my friends are like this and I am the same for them.
I’ve also found out that a friend can be the person that doesn’t give up on you even when you’ve given up on yourself. They will always cheer you on and pick you up when you get down. I simply cannot be miserable around my friends… there are never any bad times. I would say I have 5 very close friends… yeah I know 5. Out of those 5 I’ve had disagreements with 3 of them over the course of 20+ years we have been friends. Out of all those disagreements only one of those friends did I ever stop speaking to for a time and that was a few weeks and we made amends. Same guy twice actually… and as much as I was involved in the disagreement anyone would agree that he can be difficult to get along with. There aren’t really any fights between us and very little disagreement.
So how do you find these people? Well 3 of them I went to school with. My longest friend I met when I was 10… best buddies ever since. Another friend shortly after that when I was 11 and then in 7th grade the Third. My fourth friend in grade 10. I met my “sister” who is a best friend lives 4 hours away when I was 16 and that was on the internet!
My friends and I have spent so much time together… sometimes lived together that we know each other so well. I don’t mean we can tell you about likes and dislikes I mean personality. You could put a hypothetical situation on the table and my friends could tell you how I would react to it. There are times when I feel vulnerable that they can know me so well that there is nothing to hide behind… but I trust them and there is no worry.
I could ramble on for pages about them and stories but I won’t do that instead here is what I think has lead to these relationships.
I am not a judgmental person at all. I have a philosophy on life that lets people live how they want to and so long as they are happy and not hurting anything then I am happy for them.
I do not put up with drama or “BS.” I have a very low tolerance for it and so any relationships in my life that are full of drama or BS I simply end on the instant. Now out of all my friends sure we have had disagreements but one every 10 years is acceptable to me. I think this leads to you having more time for good people and a much more positive outlook on life when you aren’t constantly dealing with drama.
I genuinely like to help people and gain great satisfaction in doing so. I’ve done lots for my friends and my friends do a lot for me. Everyone wins!
That is about all I can think of for now. Good luck!