Lancelot said 10 years, 6 months ago:

So I was dating the most amazing girl (Magy). She was the most beautiful, funny, smart, brilliant girl I had ever met. Everything was going so well.

Until I messed it up, at a party a group of us were laying down watching a movie. I stupidly put my head in another girls (Beth) lap. Note that I have no feelings towards this other girl just friends at most. It was a stupid thing to do I know and I apologized. She agreed to give me another chance.

Then three weeks after this happened she (Magy) dumped me. She said that the feelings were gone and she couldn’t deal with pretending any more.

I was sad but things went along, she wanted to just be friends so I agreed and we continued to hang out. She (Still Magy) was giving me hope that perhaps later on we might get back together.

Meanwhile I was following here along like a lost puppy trying to win her back, she was busy texting my friend (Adam) all the time.

I began to get paranoid and thought she might be getting with him. I was pissed at my friend (Adam) for thinking that he could do such a thing to me. I got drunk at another party and began sending texts to yet another friend (Henry) and told him how I was considering suicide and wanted to kill Adam. Note I would never do either of those things it was just the alcohol talking.

Now Henry told her and she hates me. She says I’m being to controlling and that her and Adam were just friends. But she did say that she is starting to fall for another guy.

I want to move on, but she keeps giving me hope. She’ll compliment me, call me handsome. She even sent a photo of herself in underwear with the caption “Goodnight XXX”

I just don’t know what to do any more…

rinseandrep said 10 years, 6 months ago:

Yeah, you are not her choice for a boyfriend, and you aren’t in a healthy mindset to be a friend, you should spend the time before this hypothetical third chance away from her, considering yourself free from bounds since she considers her so.

Lancelot said 10 years, 6 months ago:

Update:

Well it turns out she lied about another guy, she doesn’t have feelings for anyone else. She that to get me to stop trying so hard to get her back.

She said I was being desperate and paranoid. Looking back I was kinda coming off as a bit of a Psycho ex…

So I said that I’d stop being so needy and go back to being funny old confident me.

Now we’ve have this “Just Friends” thing going on.

But deep down, I still love her :/

One part of me wants to be just friends and win her back. Which I hope I can do now that I’ve realized how desperate and needy I was coming off.

But another part of me doesn’t want to be her friend incase she begins dating another guy. I know if that happens it’ll hurt me.

ticktockbananarock said 10 years, 6 months ago:

I have never been friends with an ex, so I don’t know how it is like. But, I honestly don’t regret those decisions I have made because going back to an ex or even staying friends with them is like reading a book you already know the ending to. She may have that mentality of not wanting to ever get back with you, which it sounds like she does. I know you still love her, but please just move on and give your good traits to someone new because you deserve that. You deserve someone who wants you as well as you wanting them back. Maybe you should distance yourself from her, because having her too close in your life may not help you at all.