Lili said 10 years, 11 months ago:
Sorry, this is going to be a bit long.
I just started going out with this girl (we’re both bi girls), and I managed to find out that she liked me. At the time, I guess I thought I liked her as well, but I don’t. I’m just not attracted to her, and while I like her well enough as a friend, I just don’t feel for her as more than that. But I know she likes me a lot, and I want to remain friends. I really wish I felt the same as she feels for me, because she’s really a great person, but no matter how hard I try, it’s just not happening.
I was just way too anxious to jump on the chance to be in a relationship because my best friend (the girl that I’ve liked for about a year) just got herself a girlfriend and maybe I thought that if I got a great bf/gf that I’d be able to move on, but it hasn’t worked. I know I’m a horrible person, and at this point I’m just stringing this poor girl along, but I don’t know what to do. Neither of us has ‘come out’ yet, so at least I have an excuse to not openly be with her (I’m aware how awful this sounds) and I’ve just been playing along until now because I kept hoping that I’d realize that I really DID like her, and I’m lucky to have her, but I realize that it’s going to cause more harm than good. We haven’t been going out for long, just a few days, but she’s already really attached, which another thing that’s really just turning me off, I think. She’s always texting me and sending cutesy pictures. Heck, she’s already said that she ‘loves me’ in a text, and while I doubt she really means it, it’s really just making me that much more uncomfortable with the entire situation. She got out of a really crappy relationship a little while ago, and apparently used to cut as well, so all in all, I’m terrified of saying anything. What am I supposed to do? Should I wait a little bit and see if I do begin to like her as more than a friend (maybe I don’t currently just because I’m still hopelessly pining after my best friend?), should I break up as soon as possible, and the most important thing is, how am I supposed to break up with her at all and remain her friend?
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