This problem started 4 months ago, in end of October 2014. We nearly got married but due to conflict of compromise, end up I called it off. Few days later, I regretted & went back to beg for reconciliation, he said yes but worst part is his mother disapproves me for patching up with her son, so does his eldest sister & 2 younger sisters (his dad passed away 3 yrs ago).
His mom banned me from being friend with him, banned me to go to his house, banned me from talking or texting. From that day onwards, his mom is watching his back for 24/7 (they are living separately, few houses away but on the same street).
On end of Dec 2014, he flew to another city together with his mom to live with the 2 younger sisters as they were attending college there.
He was there for 40 days, we could not call & talk to each other..the only way we got connected was by way of texting & Skype.
He has returned on 31 Jan 2015 whereas his mom will be back for 1 week, on 14 Feb 2015. On the 3rd day of his return, he brought me to his house but eldest sister found out & was so frustrated & upset that he break the promises that he made with his mom – for not bringing me over.
She advises him to end it with me as there will be plenty of better woman than me. She said his mom could not even able to accept the fact that me still together with him as this will cause her heart attack.
She said she is sad that because of me, he turned his face from her & that their relationship become like that. She said she wishes to have each & every family members to live together, to reunite.
She dont wish to see that becausw of me, their family turns upside down. He told me that after what his mom has done to me, whatever they did to me, he no longer give a damn. He will just argue with them, he will defend & protect me.
I really wish that I can be with him but at the same time I dont wish to see that I’m the reason why there is no harmony in their family.
He really wants to be with me but he doesnt want to hurt his mom as he do not want to regret upon her death which was caused by us.
I love him but I couldnt let him go for the sake of their happiness. Am I selfish? What should I do?