Wolfe said 9 years, 8 months ago:

So, ive got some pretty bad luck when it comes to girls. I either come off too strongly, too friendly, or i dont make any effort at all and i go ignored, or they just arent interested or attracted, the list goes on.
My question is, and please ladies, your advice is the best, What is the best way to approach a woman, make an introduction, and actually establish yourself as an option? Tips, hints, tricks?

LonelyDalek said 9 years, 8 months ago:

Girls tend to enjoy flattery, just don’t overdo it. Be kind and nonthreatening. Find common interests and just establish yourself as a friend. I have only really ever had a crush on a friend.

Vivid Melody said 9 years, 8 months ago:

Just treat them as you would any other person. I guess that goes along with the whole not coming on too strongly advice. I agree with trying to be a friend first – if you’re looking for something long lasting.

Wolfe said 9 years, 8 months ago:

Yyeeaahh, well. the last four friends that have found out (Not at the same time, but in a row) I had liked them, took like an insult or were disgusted by it and cut off ties, soo…

Vivid Melody said 9 years, 8 months ago:

I don’t think there’s any winning over people like that. It’s pretty stupid to take something like that as an insult.

Contemplative Spark said 9 years, 8 months ago:

Honestly, it depends on what you are looking for. The thing I’ve noticed is that often times a person (of either gender) will lament not being successful at dating, but in truth, they haven’t thought about what they want either in person or experience.

It may not sound like it, but your intention really makes a difference. People will pick up on whether you’re interested in a casual fling, if you are interested in a short term relationship or a long one, or even if you are not entirely sure what you want and you want to just experience whatever (though be careful with that, because whatever is exactly what you will get).

And it’s the same thing with the girls. You may think “Oh I’ll appreciate her who ever she is as she is” but that tends not to be true. There are certain people that you get along with best, qualities that attract you, and qualities that don’t attract you at all. And all this may change over time but it is important to at least have a theory to go on.

You may also want to consider how you are handling things. The mind set of “What will make her go out with me” is a common one, but it has a subliminal suggestion that a girl wouldn’t want to go out with you just for you, and that can become a mental trap.

You are a cool person just as you are and you don’t need to find “the way” to talk to girls and show them you’re available, I promise. If they are interested, it’ll occur to them naturally.

In short, it’s more important for you to find out what works for you than for you to try to find what works for them. Let them do that. And if they decide you aren’t it, that’s okay. All that means is that they weren’t really what you wanted because you want someone who likes and appreciates you.

Once you figure out what you want and begin to pursue it with the knowledge that you are worth it, the rest of it will work itself out.

Deleted User said 9 years, 8 months ago:

ill give you a hint, for say every 30 women ive fucked, there was 100 that rejected me. its not bad luck, its statistics, having game can improve those odds, personally i feel every guy starts at a 1 to 100, and with experience and game he improves those odds. there are 3 billion women , if a handful reject you doesnt mean jack

Deleted User said 9 years, 8 months ago:

also target the hottest/sexiest woman around, trust me on that, always start from the top, in a club, bar, school, even if you fucking know youve got no chance, get rejected, but get rejected like a man who held his own. random girls pick up on that, and your value automatically increases.

Deleted User said 9 years, 7 months ago:

Those are some great tips.. sharing 1 tip from me would be: to be at ease.

Deleted User said 9 years, 7 months ago:

honestly think about it, you dont want try out some given advice that worked for someone else, keep approaching, keep failing/succeeding, with time you will develop your own personal game that works for you.
What work for me, or some girl, might not work for most people.
Practice makes perfect brahhhh

redlove96 said 9 years, 7 months ago:

You dont need to worry about that (;

NicNac said 9 years, 7 months ago:

Be yourself. Don’t try and change yourself for a woman (no offense ladies). But, you may not find the right woman; today, tomorrow, the next day, or even the month. But one day you will find a woman who is equally as attracted to you for WHO you are as you are as attracted to her. Things take time. Don’t go looking for love. Let love look for you. Things will one day fall into place. And when things do fall into place, it will be the most memorable experience.