Will he come back?

3 days ago, my boyfriend of 1 year broke up with me. He says he loves me but is willing to let that go because I don’t make him happy and we can’t fix our fighting. We have had a very complicated relationship, I stayed by his side while he was going through school and feeling very lost in his life (I’ve been classified as a “fixer”) – now he has recently started his career and has so many things going for him. A month ago, he broke up with me and after 3 days of not talking he asked me to come back- this was him trying and I was convinced he was sincere about wanting an equal partnership with me and that things would change. In my eyes there was no change, and I pushed him for these changes which evidently back fired. Regardless, I am not sure what to think, his mind seems to be made up and he has expressed that he feels ready to move on and let me go. Neither of us as made contact with each other- I think a break is needed to try to drop the “bad” in the relationship so that we could concentrate on the “good”, but will he ever come back?

asked August 3, 2014

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bbb123

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Completely agree with Venus. The relationship doesn't sound healthy. If you have to ask for changes and you only get into pointless fights, pointless because nothing gets solved, then it's just stressful for both sides. It isn't fair of him to lead you on, but you should also respect that he wants to move on, and let him. If he's just starting a career and doesn't want to celebrate and go through the thick and thin with you, let him go. Like Venus said, if you couldn't work things out now, you guys will keep fighting... It will be hard, but you need to move on. All the best.

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JustASpeck

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I don't know all that you feel about this guy, but you gotta understand that there are lots of guys who would be lucky to have you, and they'll be dedicated to your relationship. If you both understood early on that you had a complicated relationship, trying to work it out was a good thing to do. However, if things still weren't working out, the best thing to do was either end it or mutually agree to try and resolve issues. From what you've said, it doesn't sound like he was very dedicated to your relationship. You absolutely deserve to be with someone who appreciates you in every aspect. Especially when you're helping them through rough times. It was a douche-bag move on his part to break up with you after you made it clear you were staying by his side. I'm sorry he did that to you. He's not worth your time, okay? You'll find someone who appreciates you.. Don't let this one guy make you doubt that. You deserve so much better.

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Venus

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Well...you've been there for him in his hard time...idk if it was wise for him to just leave you like that :/ ....... eventually i think he might come back..... But wether or not you want to let him come back to you again, is totally upto you......

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violet

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if unhappy about the relationship, then no need to cling to something that you yourself is no longer healthy. if he comes back, good. if he doesn't , move on.

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icychoco

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