Why is there a vent and listen section?

Sorry i know the answer to this question,but today I am wondering why people come on as a listener,but dont care less about the person venting.

I am so sick today and in excruciating physical pain ,and as I wait to get relief from my pain medication,and had no one at the moment to talk to,thought as I am ususaly a listener,that i’d hope to be able to vent and feel a little better and not worry about the pain for a moment.

Instead what I got was one listener who stayed on for 90 seconds and told me they couldnt stay and went off.Then the second listener,was telling me about all their issues and I felt like I was the listener,so I told them I needed some one to listen to me today,and I went.
Then the third and last person I tried to vent to after telling them I am in a lot of pain because I need knee replacements,says to me ..sore knees soo……
And then has not patience to wait for me to say any more as i cant type fast in the pain I am in,and then says am I gay? thinking it was something funny to say as he or she thought they waited t long,even though it was a couple of minutes grrr..

Goodness me! they told me after I asked why they are so rude to me,that they are waitng 20 minutes for me to respond.They think they are funny or something.

Please read carefully what venters are saying,as it means a lot at the time to have some one truly listen.
I know others have their issues too,but go vent if you need to but in the appropriate place,and just be a listener when thats what you came there for.

Is this just me?or has any one else here today had a similar experiance.?

asked May 18, 2014

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Anonymous

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Yeah, I've talked to a lot of trolls. They're just people getting a laugh, immature people who don't have anything better to do in life. Just ignore them and move on to someone who actually cares. There are people on here that do.

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WolvishSincerity

I'm so sorry that happened to you.I come on here almost solely as a listener, and do my very best to understand and help each person I talk to. And I stay on as long as they need to talk. Even if all I can offer is an ear to listen.Sometimes, people are terrible and don't seem to care about anyone else. But there are some wonderful people here who really do care! And when you find someone to "vent" to who does, it can be so healing for you!I hope you find the right listener.

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Caitlin

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it's true... people do that.. i have talked to trollers these past few days and it gets frustrating i understand.. and when i want to vent people just leave and don't even listen to what i have to say.. either way.. there are people who really need help and were expecting help from me which i was able to deliver at the same time i could vent with people and they listened and helped me out patiently as well.. don't get discouraged by them and do your best :D

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positive stranger

As WolvishSincerity said, you'll have to deal with trolls sometimes when you want to vent or listen. But if you do get a troll, disconnect, and try again. You just have to keep on trying. Don't give up. There are many good people out there who are listeners and love helping others. For me, I love to help others by being a listener. There is no greater feeling in the world (other than being in love) than the feeling I get when I am able to help others. Just remember that even though there is good and bad out there, it sometimes may take just a little bit longer to find the good. But when you do, it makes it all worth it.

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Akasha

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I don't think the first listener can really be blamed - sometimes things pop up and people have to rush off, and there's no 'hold' button or anything - that's just bad timing. As for the genuinely bad listeners, well, unfortunately there are some of them (and they all seem to show up at the same time, for some reason o.O) - I've encountered several 'listeners' who thought they were funny/tough/etc. for making fun of my issues, insulting me, and immediately disconnecting before I could respond. That said, however, I have also encountered far more genuinely helpful listeners, so I suggest you just keep trying - you'll find someone helpful eventually :)

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It's a Secret to Everybody

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People do seem to do that quite a lot, and it's pretty annoying. Those kinds of people need to find a different site to troll, like Omegle. I occasionally do find a good listener, thought, and they help me a lot. I love listening, personally, because I get to help other people and offer them advice, and sometimes it seems to help even more than venting.

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