Why is she so complicated?

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So, here at school about 6 months ago a girl named Hannah moved here. She started becoming friends with my friends, and then me too. We have hung out, and been to each others house so many times. We’re just best friends. I always used to wait for her in the gym because she has to put up her soccer stuff. I used to love to see her everyday, because I knew I wouldn’t be bored. I realized I started to like her. In this post, let’s call Hannah “R.”..I always talked to her about this R person I liked, but she never knew it was her. One day she asked me how much I like R, and I said on a scale of 1-10… A 9.5… So she told me to go for it… So I waited a while, and sent her an email telling her how I felt. Many girls in my grade have liked her, but she “doesn’t date middle school girls”… But ever since I sent her the email, she hasn’t been talking to me, looking at me, and she didn’t even email me back.

Category: asked January 22, 2015

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She might be confused about what happened. She had no clue that it was about her, so she might feel a bit awkward that the advice that she gave you was actually for her. If she had known it was about her from the start, she might have responded differently. Maybe she doesn't feel the same and she doesn't know yet how to break it to you. When someone likes you and it's not mutual, it can difficult to tell that in a nice way. She might still be thinking about how she should reply to you. Give her some time. You can also try to talk with her in private and ask her what her opinion about the whole situation is. When she told you to go for it, she was being a friend, trying to encourage you. Now that she knows it was all about her, that changes things a bit.
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Yea, I think she may have been a little confused. When she gave you the advice to go for it, she wasn't aware it was about her, so she couldn't be open about how she really felt. When she realized it was HER you were talking about, she probably felt bad for telling you to "go for it". Because her answer may have been a little different had she known. She may not be ready to take the friendship to the next level and now she may feel a little awkward. Understandably. Give her some time, and then maybe you can try to talk about it. Like Ed said, she may be happy with just a friendship. I'm sorry that it didn't turn out how you hoped.