when people find out i have flashbacks or that i have ptsd, they leave the conversation, or just get quiet. both online and in person everyone just clams up or finds an excuse to leave. why? it’s like i’m a cannibal, or a vampire.
I think it's mainly because of the fact that they don't know how to respond, when you don't know how to respond to something as complex as a mental illness, one might become afraid of saying the wrong things, or perhaps they don't want to make the situation worse. Sometimes people just feel plain awkward, but again because they don't know how to act. I'm sure most people who leave in these situations don't intend to hurt the other person, but when people are faced with things they don't know how to help with, they leave. I would say don't take it personally, but I know those kind of actions can really hurt sometimes.
I have PTSD and I'm not allowed to talk about it in my friends group because they feel uncomfortable and feel the need to say they are sorry for what has happened to me. I don't want their damn sympathy. I want to talk about it to get it off my mind. Obviously I needed to talk about it or I wouldn't have brought it up. If you ever need to talk to someone about this problem, feel free to private message me. I'll talk to you about whatever's on your mind.
I have no idea why people are doing this, but it's not something that you should take personally. It is true that a lot of people don't understand mental illness and are uncomfortable about it, but that's their problem. If you'd like to talk to someone who you know will understand, I'm always open for chatting!