Why don’t I have specific interests?


I’ll make it easier for you to understand what I’m asking, because since now I’ve never thought thoroughly about it, but I admit that sometimes it gives me problem especially when I talk with people that I don’t know, and we start to know each other. It’s embarassing, but I always don’t know what to say to introduce myself, and I seem the kind of person who is cold.

It isn’t such a terrible problem, I mean, even if I don’t have specific interests, I have things to talk about, but it makes me feel like I actually have nothing to say. I do have interests, but they are hobbies and not something that I would talk with a person who knows way more than me, and shows himself as a lover of this interest.

I like reading, yet I read only a few books.
I like videogames, yet I played only a few.
I like cartoons and comics (such as anime and manga), yet compared to the fans I saw nothing.
I like drawing, but I’m not an expert.
I like writing, but I’m still learning, so I’m not so good.
I like music, but the groups I listen to I don’t know each album or each song, so if I talk to a fan of a specific group or a singer, I can’t keep up the conversation.

I feel like I’m missing something, I like a lot of things, but I don’t struggle for them. I’m happy the way I keep things, but I want to have a stimulant conversation for once, and I don’t know if I just haven’t found the right thing to be crazy about, or it’s just me, and I would accept it.

Thanks for reading, I know that it may seem dumb, but for me it’s a little relevant.

asked December 6, 2014

2 Answers

No, it's not dumb :)

I think you have plenty of interests, you don't have to be obsessed with what you like to make it more valid. If you really feel like it's tough to hold a conversation, ask the person you are talking to for recommendations. Maybe you like reading, but do you like fantasy, or mystery books? Tell them what you've read, listened, like to watch, and let them broaden your knowledge.

Otherwise, I wouldn't stress out about it. I love to talk about my favorite artists to my friends, even though only one of them has a vague interest, and I never really need someone who is as into art as me to talk about the newest painting, as long as someone is listening.:)
You don't have to be an expert to hold a conversation on something, and there will always be somebody who knows more. If you think about it- even if you're the most committed book fan ever, the author still knows more about their characters than you. If you've seen every anime that you know of, somebody might have watched one that you've never heard of. The thing is- that's ok. Nobody expects you to know everything. If you start a conversation and the other person brings up something you've never seen, just ask them what it's about. Like Zoe said, you can always get recommendations. Alternately, you could change the subject to something that you have seen before.