Why don’t I have any friends?

I used to be so popular and have lots of friends in lots of different social groups, old school friends, uni friends, sports team friends work friends etc…I have slowly drifted away from every single person in my past and am left with my boyfriend (he was not part of any of those previous groups – he was someone I met whilst going through a bit of a transition in my life where I ended up distancing myself from most former friends) and my sister. I get on well with people at work but I do not socialize with them outside of the workplace.
I have actually now come to find socializing quite tiring and draining and something that I have to be ‘in the mood for’.
I feel quite lonely and boring and i think my lack of friendships puts quite a strain on my relationship with my BF as he still has MANY friends, and I have only him and my sister who lives far away in Leeds and has her own life.

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Thanks, I'm 28 and I have had very few friends - less and less over the last 2-3 years after i broke up with my ex-bf, not the one I'm with now...everyone kind of took his side and I acted like I didn't care at the time. My new BF is my best friend and I am his too, but he does have others so I understand that it is hard for him as if I don't do things with him, then I have no-one to do anything with, which is not as much of a problem as he has to listen to ALL my problems as I genuinely have no-one else to talk to, and I know he finds this draining. He thinks I need to see a counselor or therapist or something too as he thinks I might be bi-polar as my moods go from seriously happy to very somber and lonely and withdrawn. Anyway, we do actually do some very amazing stuff and I love my independence and appreciate my alone time, I just feel I wish I had a few more people in my life that I had some things in common with.

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MissyMui