Why do people judge you for wanting to wait for marriage?


Why should a person be made to feel ashamed of themselves for wanting to wait for sex? How can people be so cruel?

Category: asked January 31, 2015

5 Answers

If you want to wait until marriage, then that's your choice and people should respect that. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about your choice.
I waited, it was special and had real meaning for me. Morals in this world are ridiculous, I'm glad to know there are people like you still. You have my utmost respect!
Yes, I believe in waiting until marriage too.
I also believe in waiting until marriage as well, it's a rare thing to see now-a-days, people waiting until they're married to have sex. Honestly, I don't know why people are so cruel about that, because a person wants to save their virginity for someone they love. That's something I will never understand. I really don't know why people who are saving their virginity are being shamed upon. If you're being made fun of because you want to save your v-card, you can always pm me to talk about it if you want. :)
I think it's just a cultural thing. In today's culture, sex is everywhere: magazines, TV shows, music, Internet, everything revolves around sex. So when someone says "I'm not interesting in having sex right now", people don't get it anymore. Society made sex into a big deal when, really, who care if you have sex now, after you're married, only to have children, or never? It's a personnal choice, nothing more, nothing less. You want to wait ? Wait. They don't want to wait? Then they should not wait. Unlike the previous generations, we have control over our sexual life, and that's a good thing. It should not become another way of sorting people out into categories. Personnally, I have not waited for marriage nor did I want to because, well, I don't really want to get married and don't see it as a major part of my life for which I should be ready in some kind of spiritual and physical way but if it's something meaningful for you, then I'm ok with that. It does not mean I should do the same, it does not mean my whole life will be transformed by your decision. It's just a personnal choice you made and if some people judge you for that, they should start thinking about how this is going to change their life, and when they realize it won't, they should just stay quiet and talk about something else. I just feel like it's one of these subjects that don't need a whole debate about them because they are just personnal decisions that won't affect anyone but the person who took them. Living in society would be so much easier if people just minded their own business and got interested in what really mattered for the whole community.