Why do people disconnect so quickly?

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I just get a little frustrated that people disconnect so quickly. There have been a number of times when I have signed in as a listener and, whilst waiting for a venter to connect, have opened another tab. I’m sure I’m not the only one who doesn’t simply have time to throw around since we all live busy lives – so I see nothing out of the ordinary in multi tasking whilst waiting for a venter to come along.

And yet when I come back no more than 2 minutes after I clicked on ‘listener’ the person has already been, said Hi, asked if I was there, and disconnected – plus, they didn’t connect straight away.

So I guess to the venters out there, I ask you this: the listeners are taking time out of their day to help you. Don’t expect them to reply within seconds. If you want their help, why disconnect before giving them a chance to reply?

Category: Tags: asked June 1, 2013

6 Answers

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Yeah, that happens to me too. I usually open up two windows and put them side by side, so I can keep an eye on two things at once. Sometimes they still disconnect too quickly.
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It would help if the site implemented on-tab notifications, like Facebook has. As things are now, you don't get a real idea about what the person is doing if you don't look precisely at that tab all the time.Additionally, it'd be good if there was a ping meter which could tell you the quality of the connection... just like in games. If you know that the connection is going to be patchy, you can either 1) wait until you get better signal and 2) if you're already in conversation, suggest to try to take the issue to other avenues of communication before you get disconnected all of a sudden.
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I'e had that happen to me as a listener (and I wasn't multitasking, I just waited a few minutes and then had to go away for one minute). Eventually, the same venter got connected to me again and we had a fine chat. With some, I really think it may be a feeling of urgency and need and since it's all anonymous too ... it's not about hurting or avoiding to hurt the listener's feelings or being demanding, it's about the venter's needs. As far as I'm concerned, it's their right to disconnect, even if it's not my fault for being away a few seconds or a minute. Also, I think some venters may doubt there is anyone there at all if they don't get a response. Personally I'm more baffled about the venters who disconnect without saying anything at all even when the listener is available, but even then, some issues talked about in here are really private and it could be difficult for some to talk right away. Don't worry, it's not personal :) And you can always log in as a venter and vent about how you feel about venters disconnecting (I did that my first time on here :).
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There are problems in website as well
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Personally I can't agree I'm afraid. If you're volunteering to listen, then you're entrusting someone's sanctity of mind with yourself. Treating it lightly by multi-tasking, I can't abide by it.
The site does have issues though, and you can disconnect by straining your bandwidth I think. Opening youtube disconnects facebook's chat, I found, but because I've a terrible connection.
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@AngelM Doing other things whilst talking to people isn't treating their issue lightly. Treating the issue lightly would be to pass it off as ridiculous, for example, or tell them it's stupid.