I talk myself out of change. I come up with a million reasons to not try. I live my life in hidden shame and misery, projecting false happiness to others. Opportunities come along, and I hem and haw about it until they go away, until the choice is made for me. Career advancement, relationships, friendships, I let them all pass me by. I’ve lived in the same apartment for 10 years, had the same crappy job for 8. I hate my life and the way I live and going to my terrible job, but it seems like I can never muster the courage to do anything about it. I feel like I am completely unable to take any risks that aren’t basic to survival. I feel so trapped. How do I break out of this?