I talk myself out of change. I come up with a million reasons to not try. I live my life in hidden shame and misery, projecting false happiness to others. Opportunities come along, and I hem and haw about it until they go away, until the choice is made for me. Career advancement, relationships, friendships, I let them all pass me by. I’ve lived in the same apartment for 10 years, had the same crappy job for 8. I hate my life and the way I live and going to my terrible job, but it seems like I can never muster the courage to do anything about it. I feel like I am completely unable to take any risks that aren’t basic to survival. I feel so trapped. How do I break out of this?
The fear of success is ultimately the fear of failure. Determine the origin of your fear of failure, and you will discover the anchor holding you down. You have to let go of the past so that you are free to go forward into your future. Never be afraid to live your life, don't let anyone talk you out of that, not even yourself.
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