Why do I suck at relationships?


I always take longer to get closer to guys when it comes to relationships, am I just being paranoid or is this completely normal? Whenever I get close to a guy and he wants to be in a relationship with me, I suddenly just back out because I’m too scared of him hurting me or being too close. How do I have better trust issues with guys? Are there any tips on to help me?

Category: Tags: asked October 14, 2015

1 Answer

Nothing is wrong with you, don't worry. I wouldn't say it's trust issues you have, but rather, just fear whispering in your ear. Relationships can be a little scary at first because you're tip-toeing around this new person, trying to learn what they like and don't like, all while trying to keep things fun and exciting. It isn't until you've been with that person for a while that you can really settle down and be comfortable 100%. What you are feeling is pretty normal; trust me, I was scared when I first got into dating as well. I was scared of the commitment and wondering if the guy I was with was going to change once I actually got with him. But dating is a learning experience, it teaches you about yourself as well as how to deal with whatever a relationship may throw at you. I am happily in a two year-long relationship with my current boyfriend after having dated 3 others previously. Just take it day by day and try not to let yourself get overwhelmed, let it be a fun and interesting experience! It's something you just have to take a deep breath and try out, and if it doesn't work, nothing is tying you into staying in that relationship if you are genuinely unhappy. Best of luck to you!