why do I feel so dumb?


I’ve been feeling lately, that I’m behind most of my friends education-wise. The majority of my friends, who are the in the same grade as me, are in AP Chemistry or Physics or Pre Calculus and I’m only in Honors Algebra II and Honors Chemistry. And even though I’m taking honors classes, I feel as though some of my friends don’t think I have the same potential as them, or that they ignore me because I’m not in the same class as them. It really gets me down because I know my friends wouldn’t act like that, but I’m making myself think that about them. I don’t know how to get this thought out of my head.

Category: Tags: asked September 17, 2013

4 Answers

Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. I speak from the heart here. Having compared myself to others for many years, i have come up to believe that the only life I could live was mine, and the only work I could do was MY work. The thing very prominent about comparison is that there is never a win and it will always leave you coming up short. Instead of submitting to the temptation to compare yourself to someone else, re-direct the thought towards something more productive and useful. Capitalize on your skills. You are talented in your own way. Work hard on what you are doing. What you can do, probably your friends can't. :)
I will just say this now, your intelligence isn't measured by how many AP classes you took in high school or whatever college you got into, it's the motivation and dedication that you are putting towards yourself. If you think about it, you don't have to be particularly inherently 'smart' to succeed in school, rather it's putting the hours of work into it and mastering the topic that way. So go the pace that you want to go! You would only be shooting yourself in the foot if you want to take accelerated classes only because your friends are. I would say I'm lower on the totem pole compared to my friends because they are either attending UCLA or UCSD, and I am going to NAU -northern arizona university- but I absolutely love it here. So again, intelligence isn't measured by the classes you take or your IQ it's your drive to get the job done. Some people are just better at math and science compared to others but at the same time someone could be better at writing and whatnot. We all have strengths and weaknesses and if we spent everyday comparing ourselves with each other we aren't going to go anywhere, there's always going to be someone with a higher GPA, more awards and whatnot but at the end of the day, what's most important is how you feel about yourself and if you are proud of yourself.
I agree with @Crap-bag and @Mia, but don't forget to be proud about yourself! You're only human, allow yourself to do mistakes. A mistake is not a failure, mistakes are life lessons - you learn from them and you get wiser. Try to pause for a moment and appreciate what you've accomplished, let yourself be proud and happy about the work that you have done. Focus on the good things for a second. Don't forget that you are amazing, unlike anyone else!
I always feel the same way-I think it's normal because we're constantly measuring ourselves up with other people. There's always that sense of competition between people-friendly or not. But, like they said, you can't measure yourself up to other people. All that's important is that you set your own goals/difficult levels and go for them because you want to/know you can, not because it's what they can do. If you live your life in a constant battle and competition with other people, you'll never win. It's that simple. There's always gunna be someone who goes the extra mile-don't we all hate that person? I know I do. But the point is that you can only do so much. We all have different abilities and sometimes people are just good at juggling multiple AP's. I was NEVER that person. Most people aren't. There are always going to be people above you and below you-You just have to try and be okay with that. All you can do is keep on keeping on with what you can, don't push yourself. Isn't it better to excel in honors courses than get mediocre grades in AP's? Don't push yourself if you're comfortable with where you are.