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why did he do that to me?

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i had a best guy friend, and we’ve been friends for 2 years and then i talked to him the other day and he told me that when school was over he was gonna miss me and then he gave me a hug, but then when i went to my locker i heard him talking to his friend about how much he hates me and wishes i wouldn’t talk to him. i can’t believe it and it really hurts and i don’t understand why he would say that about me??? i did nothing to him why i don’t get it

Category: asked March 19, 2014

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thanks u guys, yeah he was talking about me cus he said my name. whenever i see him i just feel like slapping him in the face i can't believe it like he's so two-faced and i feel so stupid for not seeing it earlier. thanks
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Some people say things to impress others and whether he was trying to spare your feelings by pretending to be your friend or pretending not to care to impress the other person, you do not deserve that and you do not need him in your life. Assuming that you heard correctly and that he was indeed talking about you, you should not give him the satisfaction of not wanting to wake up in the morning or blaming yourself in any way. I'm sure you're a great person and you have to realize it was his loss and walk away. there is no room for that kind of negativity in anyones life. only surround yourself with those proud to call you their friend and those that shine and bring positivity to you.
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atleast you know he is not a true friend. ALWAYS remember that friends will come and go. and you must be careful who you trust.
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Hmm.. as you said, you've been friends for some time, so why not give him an opportunity to explain himself? Please don't overthink this one.
Well there could be several reasons, but none of them really justifies him. It seems to bug you, so I recommend you to clear the air, by asking him out (calmly).

And I am sorry, this is feeling like a big rejection from his side, but remember that his words won't ever define you (: you choose what you are and what people you want to spend time with.
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You should give him a chance to explain himself. Maybe you misheard him. It could have been a joke or he was talking about someone else. Guys might be weird, but friends do not do that to each other.
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Remember that some guys always lie or cheat to make themselves look cool or brave. That may be what this guy was doing; lying to his friend to make himself look "manlier."
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Did you ever see the movie 13 Going on 30? The girl thinks her best guy friend is just a friend?
One possibility is that he really likes you, but thinks that a relationship is never going to develop beyond friendship. School age guys can try to cope with this kind of disappointment by telling themselves exactly the opposite of what they truly feel. i.e - "I hate her" can really mean "I like her too much".
This may not be the case, but I agree with Jessie and theclearmind. Give him a chance to explain himself.
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thanks for everybody's support