Why Cant People Stop Picking On Me?

id say use distractions, go on a hike or a run, play music, write, take a bath, light a candle, read a book, smoke some pot (it can be very opening and awakening), do art, read, meditate, listen to music, volunteer somewhere, talk to a friend, spend time with a fun sibling, take a shower, etc! there are many ways to change your thought process. just be committed to happiness and it will come to you! i cut for about 6 years straight so i understand that it is hard and a daily struggle but you have the strength. everyone does.

Cutting is not the answer here. I know you probably won't listen to me as I am a stranger online, but please know that even though there are jerks out there that torment you and others you are not alone. You can find people here, or in your life that care about you enough that what the others say shouldn't matter! Don't let them bring you down so low.

People pick on other people because they are insecure about themselves. You have to take what people say as a grain of salt. Whether it be about your looks, personality, family, etc. You have to know that everything you are, and everything you have become, is here on earth for a reason. You just have to trust yourself. Before you can love yourself, you have to trust yourself. Keep doing things you love, or try finding new hobbies. The more you keep your mind off of the junk, the more you can use your creativity as a motivation for yourself. Learn from these experiences, so when you look back at all of the people who made fun of you, you laugh. Maybe one day, they'll be washing you car for you.

There bullying you because they are insecure of themselves and they find satisfaction and laughter by picking on other people. They have problems themselves

Hello there, you did the right thing in reaching out.

There are as many different accounts of bullying as there are bullies that walk the earth, but there is one universal constant when it comes to bullying; bullies target people they consider weak, for whatever reason best suits them.

If you want to stop the bullying, you're going to have to discern what it is about you that bullies target and use against you, then have a good, long talk with yourself about that trait that makes you a target to bullies, to determine what you're going to do.

One thing is certain, something has to change, because if you just keep trudging along, you'll find that bullies will go an abnormally long distance out of their own way to bully someone.

You need to build a support group and stop weathering the abuse alone. No single piece of advice will stop all bullying, but bullies tend to leave alone those targets who move in groups. Bullies mostly leave their targets alone when higher authority figures are around, so you can make a point of being close to an authority figure as often as possible, but all of this is very passive.

If you want to solve your bullying problem, you're going to have to do something very deliberate about it. Maneuver your bully into getting caught, catch them around an unobserved corner and sort it out face-to-face when they don't have a crowd to perform for, since many bullies only bully because they like being the center of attention, or you can even make the effort to turn a bully into a friend. You have many options, but in the end it is up to you to take charge of your situation and figure out your solution.

(WARNING: If you choose to confront your bullying problem with violence, know that many bullies go on to develop severe anger problems, and when a bully's target "dares" to stand up to them, it can provoke them into a more aggressive response. There is never any telling whether a good sock to the mouth will fix a bully; sometimes it does, sometimes it does not. Only resort to violence if it becomes your true last resort.)

But there is one thing that does not change in all of this, and I consider this my Prime Directive: It Is Never Okay To Be A Victim Don't tolerate it, don't allow it into your life, and for certain, don't fall into the mindset of a self-victimizationer (pardon the made-up word); that is a person who deliberately becomes or finds themselves in a situation where they are a victim because it gets them attention.(Also known as Munchhausen's Syndrome)

When it comes to cutting, that is a simple explanation. Anytime your body exerts itself, it hurts at first and then releases feel-good chemicals to numb any pain and soothe the healing process. It is that feeling, that process, and that minor temporary sense of relief that cutters become addicted to. You don't need to cut, you need to get away from your antagonizers and do things that make you feel better about yourself. You need relief from your stress.

Please keep in contact and let us know how things are going in your life. If you feel like you may hurt yourself or someone else, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Their lines are open 24 hours a day.

Never forget that you matter, and you are not alone.

Seek help from a school counselor. If you are scared or ashamed to do this in person you could mail or leave an anonymous note for the counselor. Let the counselor know who the bullies are. The counselor can then say that witnesses to bullying or a teacher turned them in, instead of you turned them in. Once adults step in with their different tactics to stop them things should hopefully get better for you. I dont think it'll hurt to try..

Please do not result to cutting yourself that is not going to solve any of your problems. Try reaching out to someone who can help you deal with these bullies. Trust me things will get better you just to hang in there :)

Please don't cut, hon! It doesn't help! I've done that so much that I LOVE seeing the scars! I LOVE the feeling of depression! I LOVE pain! Please, it doesn't help AT ALL! If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here for you. Just PLEASE don't cut!!!!!

No one can tell you something that you haven't heard before. I was bullied a lot when I was younger. Always took it too. Thinking maybe in some form or another that I deserved it. Always went through each day thinking maybe today is going to be better but it never was. Because I kept letting those bullies control my life and who I was. I started cutting myself too. And 13 years later I am still dealing with the self harming. It is a bad habit to get into. It controls your life more than bullies do. The best way to get the bullies to stop is to stop allowing it to bother you. I know, easier said than done but I did it. I had had enough and one day I walked in with my head held high, ignored the bullies and showed them that I was better than they were. I stopped taking the harassment, the abuse, the death threats and took my life back. People pick on others for multiple reasons. Some do it to makes themselves look cool. Others do it because it is what they go through at home and they try to make themselves feel better by putting others through it as well. So many different reasons. You are the only one who can put your foot down and change your life. You don't have to fight them but do not run and hide. That gives them more ammunition. Just prepare yourself one night. Change your attitude, your outlook, gain motivation and self confidence and walk in the next day like you are God's gift because that is exactly what you are! They just do not realize it yet.Demi Lovato is a prime example of how far you can come and how much you can achieve regardless of bullies. Look up her story. It could be exactly what you need in order to get through this tough time.

You are a beautiful person, don't let mean people bring you down, you are stronger than people who pick on others. :) (hugs) you are a strong person, things will get better.

These people need to all shut up. You can cut yourself if you want to, KayKay. Many happy, normal, well-adjusted people have stories about cutting themselves. You can meet some of them on here on this very site! It's your body -- it's your life. None of our opinions really matter. You don't owe any of us anything.