Why can’t I leave my horrible friends in the past?

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I have a few former friends, and our friendships did not end on the best of terms. Though it’s been months, and I haven’t seen them since, I’m still very angry. After all the torment they put me through during the years that I’ve known them, I find it difficult to let go and let the past stay in the past. Every time the thought of them pops up, I just become filled with rage against them. I know it’s unhealthy, but I don’t know what to do about it.

Category: Tags: asked March 26, 2014

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you have to let it go and think about your self, i found this on twitter "i'm not gonna revenge because you will f*** your self on your own way". me myself had something similar. i had a friend in my class room along time ago, the teacher asked a general question in life and i knew the answer while everybody got the wrong answer, my friend asked me for the answer, so i told him, badly the teacher chose him to answer first, so he said the right answer and the teacher asked him who told you this answer he said "i just knew" and had all the credit for himself (i know it sounds silly for you but for me that a big deal) i was mad and angry as hell i was betrayed. but now when i look again and see this guy now being a big loser, i really believed in that retweet. so don't worry they will f*** themselves on their own way. and you should be happy knowing this fact. :) i hope that could help
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By the sounds of it even though they made you go through alot you still thought highly of them and wanted to keep them as close friends which happens. Sometimes we don't see how people treat us cause that's not what we want to believe then when they do leave us it just hurts more. All you can do is maybe try and get in contact with them even if you don't keep contact and they put you straight and give you reasons it might help you to move on and clear what is on your mind.
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I agree. The best way that I have dealt with my anger towards people in my past is to pretend that they are gone. It just helps to accept that they are no longer in your life and therefore no longer exist to you. Also I agree that the people that take advantage of others emotions and kindness are more than likely going to have a miserable life. So don't be angry, be happy that these people aren't in your life anymore and are irrelevant to you!
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I went through this as well and it was a long struggle. It's hard to deal with at first but you have to realize your own worth, and know you do not deserve whatever horrible crap they did to you. That in turn should give you a sense of "Yea, screw them, i'm better than that." It's hard but I feel it's easier to cope if you don't get sad, but get angry. That worked for me anyway. I realized they were terrible people that I did not need to be associated with because I was better than the way that they treated me and it really helped me get over it. WHO NEEDS THEM. There are better people out there who will treat you wonderfully like you deserve to be treated.
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i know it must be hard for you its probably like a deep scar that just cannot heal. but all this bottled up anger is just a dis-service to you self, in so may ways. you need to let go. your friends were never tied to you physically and they shud nt be tied to you emotionally especially if you have chosen you want to leave them in the past.... pray about!!! an\d be genuine when you say you forgive them, thats the only way to make it through.the sas part is they probably dont even remember all those horrible things, theyve moved on with their lives and God continues to bless them. so just do your self a favour and just FORGIVE themyou really dont need all that negative energy when you think about these people. who were not even worthy of you!
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The answer is simple. kill them...
Seriously though, those people - I would not refer to them as friends - those people have built themselves a really ugly culture that you are lucky to have got out of. Ultimately it will screw them and their families over, and everyone else they manage to suck in, but that's not you, and you have a chance to live a more beautiful life because you're not tied to their bullshit anymore. Forget about them and their dumb, insecure world; find more interesting people to hang out with and live with the grace and dignity that they relinquished by their treatment of you.