Why can’t I get horny anymore? :(

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I’m a female. Just turned 20 a couple months ago. For some reason I just don’t feel horny anymore. Like I don’t feel that rush of energy or arousal when being touched or just by being in close contact with a guy. Like before if I was attracted to a guy, I would be able to feel the muscles in my vagina contract while I got wet but now when I feel like it should contract, it just doesn’t . As if it’s broken or the nerves that help me to feel are damaged. It’s like my mind and eyes want to do sexual things but my body just won’t respond anymore and it’s freaking me out.
I’m in college and I have been extremely stressed or depressed this semester. Even to the point of suicidal thoughts. So maybe that could’ve been the reason but I’m no longer stressed or depressed. I feel happy.
I also just lost my virginity and had sex like 17 or 18 times with my boyfriend throughout the course of 4 months and there were no problems. I really think something is wrong with me because nothing feels the same.
I don’t like to masturbate but I’ve done it to see if it would help but still, I wasn’t really aroused and i hardly got wet. I’ve tried watching porn. Hasn’t helped. I even listened to sex songs and it didn’t help. Before, nothing would even have to happen and I would just be really wet but now I’m always just so dry. I feel like a vegetable in the sexual aspect and it’s scaring me .
Can someone please help me with a thoughtful answer?

Category: asked May 22, 2014

8 Answers

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My sister had the same problem, but it wasn't solely about the not getting horny , but all around physical ''deafness''. Depression (to the extend of having suicidal thoughts ) can definitely cause this. Depression is both chemical and psychological, so you (often) combine the treatment of it with drugs and therapy. Did you get any of these during this period? And did the vegetable feeling start before, during or after the stress/depression period?I'm not sure about the stress though, because you are getting stressed by the idea of not getting horny when you ''should''. I'd say, try getting a relaxing day out. Go to a sauna or something, or get a massage. OR (even better) ask your boyfriend for a massage :D. make sure he knows about your situation though.
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It sounds to be like it could be a hormonal imbalance.
Stress and depression can throw your hormones all out of sync and sometimes it's hard for your body to catch back up to that.
I would talk to a doctor about it to see if maybe some hormone supplements might help you out.
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Stress and depression can be a reason. I've noticed in between semesters it comes back because I'm not as stressed :/
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I know depression pretty much virtually killed my ability to get aroused for a long while. Now my sex drive is still close to dead. So yeah, I'd guess it's depression.
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one of the many joys of feeling shit; it sucks to feel asexual and so the cycle continues
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That definitely sounds like a hormone problem. Please consult your doctor for an evaluation. If you receive a clean bill of health, then it is depression.
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Have your thyroid checked....seriously get it checked
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