Why can’t he love me too?

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As a 15 year old girl, I just got my first boyfriend 2 1/2 months. I’ve become attached to him. He was my best friend. Now he broke up with me today because I told him I loved him. He also said I’d been ‘too flirtatious’ with other guys, who he clearly know are just my friends. I haven’t been self-harming recently, because I got a huge talk about it from my friends, but this situation makes me want to start again. I don’t want to have to lose him..he’s amazing. But..I don’t see any other solutions..

Category: asked October 19, 2013

6 Answers

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It's that boy's loss that he broke up with you, sweetheart! You are amazing and you are young and have way more time to find someone who won't take you for granted. When you end up someday with the right guy, you'll be so glad it didn't work out with anyone else. Please don't hurt yourself. You didn't do anything wrong and you're beautiful. Remember your potential. You don't deserve to be damaged or to feel any more pain in any way! Instead, talk to someone who cares about you about the breakup, tell someone close that you feel like self-harming. Exercise, read a book, watch a movie, draw, do something to get your mind off of your feelings.
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"...I don't see any other solutions" just a few words ago you were suggesting self harm, I may be misunderstood but are you saying that self harming will help this? then of course it won't. My solution is to try just, hang out with him, invite him to a movie, a party, etc. and try and slowly repair what happened, you can't be sad when you having fun.
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Thank you a lot, but I want to get back together with this guy. I don't know if this information is useful, but he tried to force me to do things I really didn't want to do. Like...bad things. I refused mostly all of them, though. I love him..and I don't want him to stop liking me. I've tried telling my closest friends, they either tell me to stop, or that I'm emo and need to get over it..
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Love Is Very Vague For Us Young Kids. Its More Of Lusting For Love. I Personally Dont Believe You Are Experiencing Love But You Are Experiencing something New and Interesting as A Teen. You shouldnt Feel to Broken. As A Teen And Most Likely In High School You are Going to Date and Experiment and You shouldnt Break Completely Over the First Guy. You should Keep Your Head up.
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Thank you a lot, but I want to get back together with this guy. I don't know if this information is useful, but he tried to force me to do things I really didn't want to do. Like...bad things. I refused mostly all of them, though. I love him..and I don't want him to stop liking me. I've tried telling my closest friends, they either tell me to stop, or that I'm emo and need to get over it..
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Alisa, the problem with that is, he won't even talk to me anymore, even less listen to me. I feel terrible for my friends as well, because every time they try to help me, I push them away because I don't want them to have to listen to me complain. They just think I'm being mean to them..


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