My boyfriend talked to me today and told me that he thinks he makes me uncomfortable. I only hug him goodbye, I don’t hold his hand, I rarely cuddle close when he puts his arm around me, and when we kiss, I pull away. He thinks that, despite the fact that I deny this, he makes me nervous and uncomfortable. The problem is that I WANT to hold his hand and cuddle with him and kiss him and do all of those things that I’m not doing. I don’t know why I’m holding back. I daydream about all of these things, but when I get the chance in real life, I can’t seem to loosen up. This is my first real relationship, and I feel that one reason is because I am not used to this kind of attention.
I just have no idea how to let go and allow myself to be more comfortable with these public displays of affection. Does anyone have an experience with this and/or advice to help me show how I feel?
