So my boyfriend and I started dating two months ago. I’ve had bad relationships in the past, especially with my last ex who really messed with my mind a lot. I had been single for three years until I just recently met my boyfriend. So this is a big step for me. Literally, relationships give me anxiety and depression just thinking about them. Well when I met my boyfriend he was the best guy I’ve ever met, so sweet and would literally do anything for anyone. He was always telling me how he felt about me and always calling me, and he’d be dying to see me after a couple days. Once we became official, he started his college classes. He’s 20, and I’m 23…….huge difference with where we are in our lives.
Now he’s so busy with school, which I understand, but I’m being fit ever so slightly into his schedule. We see each other Tuesday nights before bed, Saturday nights after work, and Sundays are our only real long day together. He’s become accustomed to this routine, while all I do is go to work and come home, sit, and think. Way too much. He’s perfectly content with when he sees me, but it just isn’t enough for me. When we’re not together he’s no longer sending me cute messages letting me know that I’m on his mind…and I’m always the first one to call now. I could maybe accept the fact that I can’t see him very often, if I actually felt like he was still my boyfriend on all of the other days. I’m just not getting enough from him right now.
We’ve been on three dates since we started dating….the third being because I mentioned that we never do anything fun together, we just have this routine that we’re stuck in. When I bring things to his attention, he KNOWS very well that he is not all in this, and doesn’t know about anything right now, but he tries to make it work. And sometimes it feels forced. He can’t be honest with me and tell me he doesn’t want to do something. Instead he beats around the bush to try and not disappoint me, but in the end it makes me feel worse. Because now I have no idea how to tell when his intentions are real or not.
Is this maybe an age difference issue? Will he just not understand, because we are at such different places in our lives? And should I just back off and hold off on all of this until he knows what he wants?